How to say I love you without saying I love you

As far as I can remember my mom never said I love you to my face. I always wondered why but never asked. I knew it though by her actions and those actions taught me that actions speak louder than words. I was raised to take people for their actions and not their word so it’s hard for me to trust but that’s a post for another day. I love you doesn’t come easy for me because the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree I am used to saying it to the kids now but it took me a min to say those words because I didn’t understand that some people need to hear it.  So since Valentine’s day is coming I want to give you some ways to say I love you through action without saying the actual words. Just in case you are like me or you trying to figure out if that dude likes/loves you.

How to say I love you without saying I love you

1. Compromise. Some folks are stubborn but if they love you they may compromise with you. They will try to find a middle ground to meet you at if they feeling you like that. If their family has a gathering and you have a function at work him missing his family gathering to attend the function at your job with you speaks volumes. He loves you!
2. A hug. I am not a hugger but this is a great way to show someone that you love them without saying the words. Sometimes we can just see that someone is going through something and we embrace them. A warm hug lets me know that you care for me and you see that sometimes I just need a hug.
3. Listen to them. Don’t be on your phone scrolling and doing other things while someone is talking to you. Listen to them so that you can hear what they are saying. Some people hear us but they don’t really hear us. Don’t just hear, listen to what they say attentively.
4. Give them gifts. I love gifts but not just any ole gift. I need something that I love. This goes with the listening part also. If I say I love candles and you know that I love candles. Why would you get me chocolates? You weren’t listening and this isn’t a gift that I love. When you buy me something that I love on a whim that tells me that you love me.
5. Constantly making contact. I just love it when folks grab hands or someone touches me on my face ever so softly. That tells me you love me. Now, this can be the guy trying to get you to so you gotta be careful because this has happened to me. Some guys know how to get ya. Don’t let their charm fool you!
6. Being supportive. Even if you think my idea is dumb and I’m crazy, support me. That tells me you love me and you are willing to look somewhat crazy with me. This also means that you are willing to put yourself aside to have my back. That means the world to me because sometimes we can come up with some crazy ideas and we need someone to cosign it with us even if we both know it’s crazy. Have my back regardless. Tell me I’m wrong but still have my back…kinda like how the Fiance of Aaron Hernandez. She had his back even though she knew he was doing wrong.
7. Random texts. Back in the day, it was love letters but we have modernized. A text to say something funny or send a quote means a lot to some people because that tells me you are thinking about me throughout the day. Even if I know I will see you that night I want to know that you thought about me so even if you can’t call you can text.
8. He doesn’t like being away from you. Now there are levels to this one. Sometimes men can be stalkerish and try to be the man and say you can’t go anywhere or do anything without me. I’m not talking about that controlling type of man (women do this also) I’m talking about a man who wants to be in your presence but doesn’t do it in a controlling way. If that man loves you he won’t be able to keep his hands off of you…literally.
9. He is himself when he is around you. Now this one is huge because sometimes men get a lot of grief for being a man. Yes, they forget stuff, yes they sometimes don’t know when your anniversary is, yes they leave the toilet seat up for you to go for a swim but you know what? It’s all good! If y’all can laugh at the silly stuff and he can be open and honest with you then you know that he loves you. Nothing says I love you than honesty and being yourself.
10. The way he looks at you. You know the look. That look where you two understand each other without saying a word. His eyes says he loves you even before he says the words. Whew chile if you have that or have ever had that you are one of the lucky ones.

So these are my 10 ways that a man says I love you without saying the words. This also goes for women!

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