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We don’t put our hands on people + Wed Links

Last week was hell. First my internet was out almost 4 days becaue a line was cut in our area. Everyone on Tmobile and At&t was out for at least 48 hours or more. I had to use my neighbors wifi who luckily had comcast. I missed opps, work, and a lot bunch of other stuff. On top of that last Friday I got called into the principals office. Why? My daughter slapped a boy. Here is how it went down and why I don’t care what happened we don’t put our hands on people

We don’t put our hands on people

Goes through the car line to pick up my kids….my daughter isn’t there and I’m panicking.

Downs my window….

Teacher: Hey Zaza is in the principal’s office she hit someone and they would like you to come to the office.

Son: Oohhhhh she in trouble I can’t wait to hear what happened.

Me: Shut it

I roll around to the front of the school park and go into the office. I can hear her crying before I got to the office. I walked in the other parent whose son she hit said your daughter hit my son.

Me: Well she had to have a reason but I will be getting on her because no matter the reason we don’t hit other kids so I will be finding out what is going on.

She was mad which she should be….

Principal calls me in

Principal: From my understanding, the boy was going back and forth with your daughter and he said that her friend was ugly and she took it upon herself to go and slap him. He pushed her and the teacher stopped anything from going further.

Basically he called her friend a name and she took it upon herself to fight for the friend.

Principal: She will have to do ISS (in-school suspension) and apologize but I am so surprised at Zaza she is such a sweet young lady.

When we left she broke down and I cussed her out in the car. She said he was bullying her but deep down he dumped her and she was mad. You see they went together later part of last year and this new school year he talking to someone else and she mad. That is my conclusion….she is 10 btw smdh.

Me: I don’t care what he did or what he called someone else. That doesn’t give you the right to go and slap him when he didn’t put his hands on you. Don’t you ever have me in an office because you can’t control your temper. I understand he called your friend a name but let your friend handle that, that is not your battle to fight. Ignore him or tell a teacher if he keeps bothering you.

She is now under punishment until further notice. Her friends all 23 of them (my gawd she has a lot of friends) called her cell phone while I was cutting it off (they texted too) to corroborate the story that he was bothering her and her friends for a while and she had enough of the name-calling.

Wed Links

All these work from home jobs y’all better get on it.

I’m thinking about moving soon and I might be using this. I don’t even have to get a real estate agent.

I love using Airbnb’s for photoshoots. Cheaper than a studio and less hassle. Just let the owners know.

Headshots should not be boring at all. I make it a point to get ones that aren’t the standard shot.

Here is a great article on how to come up with blog post ideas.

I’ve been spending some time over on LinkedIn lately. I would dust it off and do the same if I were you.

I think I might hire my son to help me with my business. Would you hire your 13-year-old? What would you have them do?

I might try this out for my kids. A great way to get them in the kitchen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

12 Comments

  • K. Elizabeth
    September 11, 2019 at 9:34 pm

    I’m sorry Zaza was getting bullied and that she’s sad over her breakup. Kids have such big emotions and they don’t always know the best way to deal with them unfortunately. I hope this is situation serves as a learning experience for all parties involved.

    Also, if you use OpenDoor for your next move, I’d love to hear how your experience goes. I’ve only heard not so good things so far but I’m wondering if it’s because their service is still relatively new and they need time to work out all the kinks.

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  • Kim
    September 12, 2019 at 10:45 pm

    It’s admirable she thought she had to stick up for her friend, but I agree that she should not have hit the boy. I hope after the punishment and ISS she’s learned her lesson.

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  • Monique Tillman
    September 13, 2019 at 1:09 am

    Your son is funny. I remember doing that when someone else got in trouble. I understand why she hit him, but it was admirable of her to want defend her friend.

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  • Lia World Traveler
    September 13, 2019 at 11:12 am

    Important life lesson and also a hard one. I am glad to hear we are not the only family figuring out how to deal with this issue.

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  • Carissa
    September 13, 2019 at 1:45 pm

    Your son had me cracking up! But I totally understand her standing up for her friend and getting a hit in for herself, but this is just the beginning with boys and the dumb stuff that goes on with them. I hope her next week is better and the boy just goes somewhere away from her!

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  • Stacie
    September 13, 2019 at 3:43 pm

    Preteen love…sigh. I remember a similar exchange with a boy for a similar but not quite reason. I think it’s sweet that she stood up for her friend, but at the same time, the young man shouldn’t be bullying the girls.

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  • Mimi Robinson
    September 15, 2019 at 12:29 am

    Wow! I would have done the exact same thing. I don’t believe in putting your hands on someone. Especially when they didn’t put their hands on you.

    This parenting life is tough.

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  • Kiwi
    September 15, 2019 at 3:10 am

    I love your links at the bottom of these posts. I am gonna pass the info of the work from home jobs to a few people. Also I said one day I was gonna rent an Air b n b Plus our for a photo shoot!

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  • Nanekia
    September 15, 2019 at 2:02 pm

    Yes, we need to keep our hands to ourselves. A very valuable lesson.

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  • Nadalie Bardo
    September 15, 2019 at 4:48 pm

    100%, hands are kept to ourselves. I admire that she stands up for her friends, it’s learning better ways to do that.

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  • Joyce Brewer
    September 17, 2019 at 1:41 pm

    This bullying is out of control. Our son likes to “save” his friends too, even wants to visit a friend at another school who’s getting bullied. Your daughter’s heart was in the right place, she just didn’t execute a well-thought-out plan. That’s part of being a child.

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  • Brittany
    September 17, 2019 at 7:47 pm

    your daughter experienced her first heartbreak and thought he deserved a slap. i feel the sentiment, but you’re right, we cant slap people when they make us mad. Also, think you for sharing those links. I like the headshots and air bnb as a studio.

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