The good and bad things about getting older

Well…Its my birthday and I’m 30 something years old. I never tell my age because well I haven’t embraced it yet. Also, a lady never tells her age I like to keep people guessing lol. Let’s just say I’m in my late 30s and I’m a blink away from 40 that’s all I will say for now. This birthday I want to talk about the good and bad things about getting older.

The good and bad things about getting older

Let’s get the bad part about getting older out the way first shall we. I like to hear the bad news before the good news anyway.

• Feeling like I failed. This sucks because I am not where I wanted to be at this age. I wanted to be much further along than what I am. I’ve come a long way and I’m grateful but I wanted to be making a certain amount a month and I have yet to achieve that. It sucks that I haven’t accomplished my dreams yet but as they say you are never too old right.
• I hate that people tell me things like at my age I should be dressing a certain way or I should know how to do this or that. Look I dress like a 20 year old let me be. I have seen some of the outfits you 40 something old folks wear and I’m like my gawd ya look 50. Let me wear what I want.
• Being made to feel horrible that I’m single. I had one person say you know you aren’t getting younger when are you going to find a nice young man to date or marry. Looka here I’m ok being single for now. I’m embracing it a lot more than what I originally thought. I love being on my own so much so that having a boo kinda scares me. It’s nice to be able to come home and eat cereal or not have to clean up after another man child. Or I get to pick where I go on vacation and decorate my house my way. It’s kinda nice….I do have plans to look for a boo though I got work to do on me first.
• I can’t remember anything. I don’t think I need to elaborate on that. I used to be able to remember things, names, places, etc. Now if I don’t write it down it won’t get done and I do mean everything. I gotta have it written down to put my camera bag in the car the night before a photoshoot or I will drive to the shoot and forget the camera (happened once).
• The weight doesn’t come off as easily. I remember when I was in my 20s I could eat 2 whoppers, fries, soda, and didn’t gain anything. Now I can eat a bite of a burger and I gain 50 pounds.
• I feel bad when I meet these youngins and they say ma’am to me. I hate it!

There is more but I will stop there. Now let me give you 7 things I love about being older.

1. I say things without worrying about what you think. My mom used to say shat that just came out of her mouth and used to be like mom that’s not nice but older folks don’t care about being nice. We say whatever and do whatever and we know how to say no quite well. I am getting to the point of where I no longer care about what you think and it feels good. This also goes for speaking up more. Being an advocate for myself. I am finding my voice a bit more as I get older and that is cool
2. I’ve been through some things. I can tell you a thing or two about life not as much as a 60-year-old but being more than halfway there I can teach a thing or two to these youngins who think they know it all.
3. Another reason why I love getting older is that I have zero time and patience for bullshat. You will not waste my time these days because time is moving and shaking. Once I turn 40 it’s 50 then 60 and boom I’m 80. Time is precious as you get older so don’t waste it.
4. More confidence. I still lack this somewhat but y’all noticed more pics of me on Instagram…I’m getting better.
5. Less apologizing. If you did something huge then by all means apologize but stop apologizing for little things. Like saying sorry for bothering you. Look if I have something to ask or I need a question answered I will ask it. I know how not to bother you if something is said. Sorry, I don’t know. Say it without the sorry. I don’t know and be okay with that.
6. I appreciate the smaller things in life. More vacations are in the future. More spending time with my kids and not working as much. More going places and doing things at the spur of the moment. Fewer things in my house. I am loving not having to need everything.
7. Being able to know who your real friends are. By this age, you should be able to tell the difference between a friend and an acquaintance. There is a difference!

What do you love about your age? Can you guess my age in the comments?