Don’t miss out on the things that matter the most

Well my kids are officially done with school. Since this Rona thing started they have had home school since March. It has sucked if I’m being honest. With me working I didn’t have the time I needed to make sure they kept up with their studies so they fell behind. Homeschooling I know is not for me but I don’t knock anyone that does it. I know that I don’t have the focus for my kids that they need and they need real teachers to teach them. I wish teachers were paid more but that’s a story for another day. Today I want to talk about missing out on things and how I don’t want my kids to miss out on the things that matter the most.

Don’t miss out on the things that matter the most

My son is done with the 8th grade at a school that only went up to 8th grade. He won’t be back and so they decided to do a drive through graduation. In short we would decorate our cars with the banners of our kids and do a drive through to wave to all the teachers at the school. Some who have had my son since kindergarten. I told my son about the drive-through and the first thing he said was I don’t want to go. Why? Because my friends aren’t going. That was his answer…no other reason. At first, I was like ok if you don’t want to go we won’t but as the day got near I was like you know what we will go. I don’t care if your friends don’t go. You will not miss out on something that is happy. You will get out of this house and participate because I don’t want you to regret anything. So at the last minute I ordered a banner (thanks Loni for getting it for me), some balloons, had my daughter create another banner and we decorated the car with all the fixings. I didn’t tell him until the morning of that we were going to the drive-thru. He complained said he didn’t want to go put on some ugly outfit which he never does (he is a fashionista man version)  and basically took his time in the bathroom because he refused to participate.

Guess what?

All of his friends were there and when we arrived he jumped out the car and practically ran over there to them. See there! You would have missed out on seeing them just because you thought they weren’t going to be there. Apparently all of them had the same idea and their parents made them come also. He also shed a tear as we were driving thru and called out all the teachers name and waved to them. I have it on camera too.

I missed out on some things when I was his age because of pride also because I didn’t want to go I thought it was wack or lame. Now looking back I wish that I had done some of the things that I missed like my senior trip. I had the money to go but didn’t want to go because I just didn’t feel like going wanted to spend that weekend with my boyfriend who later cheated on me…a waste lol. I missed out on a dance because I didn’t want to wear the only shoes I had because I wanted a new shoe and I complained about it knowing my mom couldn’t afford more. During these times I don’t want my kids to miss out on anything that they don’t have to miss out on. Even if you don’t stay, go. Even if your friends aren’t going, go. Linsey said it best “my mom forced me to do things and it taught me a valuable lesson about not missing out things out of pride and also to celebrate yourself, because why not?

Celebrate yourself and do the things this season that you don’t feel like doing. Get up when you feel down and move. I know that Rona has us all in a funk but celebrate the good so that you can feel good.

Also, I now have a new high schooler (9th grade) and a new middle schooler for 6th grade. Congrats to all the graduates!