The lesson I learned from the finale of This is Us

I don’t watch a lot of tv. As a matter of fact, if it’s not 48 hours (I always have to figure out who murdered who before the cops) or something on the food network my tv would literally collect dust. One of the shows that I watch faithfully every week is This is Us. If you haven’t seen the Finale you might want to skip this post. There were two lessons that I learned from the finale but there is one that I will take with me as I start the second quarter of this year.

The finale of This is Us

In the finale, Kevin and Tess were having a conversation. I love their conversations, to be honest, it’s not the first time they have had a deep convo before that had a light bulb going off in my head. In this particular conversation, it went like this

But this whole idea of not really knowing who are you are deep down inside? That’s my life story . . . One thing that I have learned? I don’t think we figure out exactly who we are all at once. I think it happens over a long period of time, like piece by piece.”

He continued: “Take me for instance: A couple of years ago, I got close with your dad and I find a piece of myself. And then I meet your aunt and I find another piece of myself. Honey, I think that’s sorta how it works, you know? I think we go through this life slowly but surely, just collecting these little pieces of ourselves that we can’t really live without until eventually, we have enough of them we feel whole.”

In other words, Tess said that she didn’t really know herself. How do you find yourself on the journey of life? His answer resonated with me so much…let me back up a bit

I took a quick trip to the beach this week to get some clarity on things. I have been feeling down and out lately. Feeling like an orphan child who has no home, no clarity, no purpose, no nothing. I feel like I have just been existing. Working, dropping kids off, back to work, picking kids up, work, fixing dinner, work, getting things ready for the next day, work some more and then get about 3 hours of sleep. That has been my pattern for the past couple of months. I have kept a smile on my face and I have made jokes here and there but I have been feeling lost. Like who am I? I am almost 40 and I have no idea who I am and what I truly want to do. I keep going back and forth on so many things not really having a clear cut answer as to the IT….what is IT? I see so many folks who are in their late 30’s and even 40’s who seem to have no purpose in life. They just doing stuff to pay bills hating every moment of it. I needed to get away from it to see some water, to put my feet in the sand, to think about something other than work.

When he said that we find pieces of ourselves and collect those pieces to make us feel whole I felt that. I needed to hear that. I needed to know that I wasn’t crazy about not having my shat together.

What are the pieces? Well here is what I’ve collected so far

• The gift of making people laugh – I am getting pretty good at this. Have you checked out my conversations on Wednesdays? How about my #kitainthedark series on Insta. My captions on insta will make you laugh too. I have collected the gift of being able to make others laugh
• The gift of speaking to those that aren’t seen – I seek out people who aren’t in the forefront of anything. I started a facebook group just for us. We are the ones who need each other because we are in the same boat. I love people who are like me trying to find a way when no one else is willing to help.
• The gift of being a wife, single mom, and single women all within one year. I have been all of these and I have collected lessons from each thing that I can mold together to make a beautiful masterpiece for others who need advice
• Meeting a guy that I like – Yes I know I actually like a guy who has taught me some valuable lessons. Even if we don’t make it, meeting him has put some pieces together for me that I had no idea I even needed to have.
• Photography – That piece has been a huge part of finding a little of me. It’s the one thing I never thought would bring me peace.
• I found pieces of myself when I had my kids. Being a mom to two kids who are different like night and day. I find a lot of pieces in them that reflect who I am
• The piece to understand grief like no one else. I like to think of myself as an expert these days
• The piece of being fair and understanding things from a different point of view

We collect these pieces until we have enough of them to feel whole. I’m still collecting pieces each and every day I think we collect a tiny piece of what our purpose is daily we don’t know it all the time because we don’t see it but we are.

Deja’s Speech was spot on too.

Deja pulled a Randall on Randall. He won the lottery twice don’t mess it up. Not everyone gets second chances…so if you get a third chance…chile….I haven’t gotten a second chance at anything in my life as of yet. I hope that I do though. To be able to be given a second chance at something is a gift you should not take lightly.

I love this show and I needed to hear the lesson. I needed to hear that so what does the future hold for me. Funny you should ask…because that is where the finale left us

What pieces have you collected for yourself over the years?