I was asked the other day do I regret anything in life. I regret many things…some things I wish I could change and have a do over. Some things if it didn’t happen then I wouldn’t be where I am today. I think you have to make regrets a learning tool or it will forever haunt you. Here is the conversation I had with a friend about how to get over regret.
How to get over regret
Friend: Do you regret anything in life Kita?
Me: Yes plenty. One thing that sits with me to this day was the fact that I didn’t take my mom’s cancer seriously. I thought I could pray and it would go away and I thought she would make it through
Friend: How do you get over that regret?
Me: I’m not really over it. The only thing that helps me get through is the fact that I can’t change the past. I can only learn from it and not repeat the same mistake twice.
Friend: I regret not going to college for my passion and I feel stuck and lost
Me: That was a regret for me too. I went to school for business when I could have saved that money. I learned more from being in the world. Just think of the degree you have and use it to embrace your passion. I wish I could say more positive things about that but you gotta mourn that loss like a person who has passed away.
Friend: Cry it out, yell and scream. So instead of fighting your feelings, give in to them. Address them. Give them your full attention. Let yourself dwell
Me: Yassssssss. See you gotta do that and then forgive yourself. I am still working on that forgiveness part. It’s not as easy as it sounds.
Friend: I think my past keeps me from going further in the future.
Me: I think that is the problem for a lot of people. Here are a few questions to ask yourself. What do you know now that you didn’t know back then? Now that you know better will you do better? Now that I know how cancer works I know that when someone says they are in stage 3 of cancer I know not to take that lightly and will do what I need to do to spend that time with the person making memories because I learned.
Friend: Thank you for being my therapist for today lol.
Me: No problem I will send you my bill.
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14 Comments
Candy
March 13, 2019 at 2:40 pmWhat does reget get you nothing. Well hopefully you have learned a lesson but continue forward
Alli Smith
March 13, 2019 at 3:25 pmI try to live life with no regrets. Of course, I have a few but you can’t move forward while constantly looking back with regrets so I chose to learn from my mistakes and keep moving.
Melanie
March 13, 2019 at 4:55 pmI have not seen Captain Marvel yet. I have heard that it is a good movie. I am sure that I will see it soon.
Amber Myers
March 13, 2019 at 5:53 pmRegret is tough. I do try to always focus on the good though. It takes less energy.
We saw Captain Marvel and really enjoyed it!
Pam Wattenbarger
March 13, 2019 at 7:32 pmIt can be really hard to live with regret. But it’s never too late to change things in your life, or so I have learned.
Lisa Martin
March 14, 2019 at 3:42 amFocusing on your regrets is so easy to do . I’m always reminding myself to focus on the positive things.
MELANIE EDJOURIAN
March 14, 2019 at 12:28 pmLiving with regret can be hard. Sometimes we need to learn to find ways of dealing with whatever is causing it and put it in the past as otherwise it eats away at you and doesn’t result in anything positive.
Ruth I
March 14, 2019 at 1:07 pmAgree, it is better to deal with regrets that let it haunt you forever. Forgive yourself and learn from it.
Chubskulit Rose
March 14, 2019 at 1:22 pmI dunno, I wouldn’t be here without my old self so I never regretted anything that I did. It helped me grow stronger.
Tasheena
March 14, 2019 at 4:51 pmI think it’s easy for someone to say looking on the outside that they will live with no regrets. Until you’re really put in a life event, things change. Thank you for sharing your story.
Lynndee
March 14, 2019 at 7:38 pmThe things that I did in the past made me the person that I am today. So I’d say, I did not regret any because I am a much stronger person now.
Dennis Littley
March 15, 2019 at 3:42 amSome regrets are a lot harder to cope with than others. Thanks for sharing this conversation with us.
Heather
March 15, 2019 at 2:39 pmThe way I look at it is, I can’t regret anything that’s happened in my life. It’s what has made me who I am today.
Jona Shares
March 16, 2019 at 10:14 amI guess for some reason, there would always be regrets. It’s just how we deal with it. May we always use it in a good way to improve ourselves.