Black panther hits theaters Feb 16th! I am going to wait until the fanfare dies down to go and see it but I can’t wait. There was one part in the trailer of Black Panther that stood out for me check the trailer below and go to 42 second mark
Oprah also gave a great speech at the Golden Globs award that had me thinking….we are some powerful ass people…..SHAT!
I’m black make no mistake about that. I don’t hate anyone of any color because we all bleed the same red blood. Now if you bleed a different color than red we may have a slight problem. As I raise a King and a Queen I am often reminded of my heritage. Where I come from, the lessons we are taught, the trials we as African Americans have to go through and I wonder if I am doing all that I can to raise my children right. I make sure I fight for them because no one else will. My son in particular…..
I preach to my son that he needs to think beyond sports as a way to make money. He plays basketball with kids for the first time this year and he came to me saying that he isn’t good enough because the other kids play like they are in the NBA. I put him in basketball to lose weight not so much to win the game. I need him to move and I want to keep him active. I didn’t put him in because he has a career nor will we try to make a career out of basketball. It broke my heart when he said he wasn’t good enough. I don’t need you to be good enough I need you to learn the game and play with your heart. It doesn’t matter that others play better than you. Use your brain and outsmart them. I am not the smartest or the brightest when it comes to a lot of things but I can play the game enough to not let you win without a good fight. I told my son he gets to decide how he plays the game. You can be mad that you aren’t up to par or you can practice your game at home and work smarter not harder. You can watch basketball games and figure out how to do certain things but most importantly I want you to learn how to play the game your way and make it yours. As he gets older I want him to decide what kind of person he wants to be. He can roll with the wrong crowd and suffer the consequences or roll with the right crowd and reap the benefits ….he gets to decide. As he gets older I want to make sure he makes decisions based on various outcomes. That’s how I teach my kids…if you don’t study then this will be the outcome of your grades. You will fail and you may get put out of your school so the decision is yours. You have 50 dollars and you want to buy a new shoe…you can save your money and wait until it goes on sale or you can spend your money and it goes on sale the next week. Or you can spend your money and buy stock into the company and focus on that. You will outgrow your shoes anyway! Every decision he makes will have a consequence whether good or bad so I want him to decide what kind of King he will be. What kind of leader he will be. What kind of person he will be. He gets to decide that and don’t let anyone decide for you!
Now, my daughter, she is different. She already knows she’s a queen but with that comes some truths also. Yes, you are a queen but a queen does not brag. A queen is humble, a queen doesn’t let things get under her skin. A queen remains a queen at all times. Yes, we still have to fight for equal pay. Yes, we still have to fight men who want to take advantage of us and think we are all just bodies and no brain. Yes, we have to endure some hard times. A queen doesn’t get her crown easily. We have to swallow some bitter pills and I tell my daughter women have it harder because we take on so much. I want you to be a queen and wear your crown at all times. Never think you aren’t good enough. Never think you aren’t pretty enough and never be ashamed of the color of your skin. You get to decide what kind of queen you will be. You get to decide and say no when that decision doesn’t sit well with your soul. Never compromise who you are, you don’t have to show people that you are a queen walk the walk and they will see your crown.
I can’t wait to see Black Panther. It’s been a long time since I’ve seen a movie that represented who I am, a Queen and I don’t mind seeing my Kings in this also. Here are some mantras that I teach my kids to ensure that their King and Queen Status stays intact
- You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do
- Say no and don’t offer any explanations
- Be humble….always
- Treat your fellow Kings and Queens with respect. You don’t have to like or agree with what they say but there is a certain level of respect that I want you to have
- Speak your truth even if your words make you cry or makes your voice tremble
- Don’t’ Freeze….they will attack you but don’t freeze
This MLK Day don’t’ Freeze. If you have a dream go after it and decide what type of King or Queen you will be from this day forward.