My friend is looking for some good single men….I can’t even begin to help her because clearly, I can’t help myself. The men I am going out on dates with…..OMG
Phone rings*
Me: What it is
Friend: I am sick of these men Kita is it too much to ask to find a decent one that has no kids over the age of 30 who does not live with his mom and has a decent job.
Me: No sorry if you find a man over 30 with no kids and a good job he is either A. ugly, B. has a little wee wee C. has a wife and kids you don’t know about D. DL man. A fine ass man with no kids and got his shit together and single that is unheard of in these days and times.
Friend: I am going to have to settle then
Me: I told you to open up and date outside of your race nothing wrong with that live a little we are all one, you may find the man of your dreams if you look everywhere.
Friend: Ok what do you think about me signing up to match.com
Me: Omm sounds good but when I think of match.com I think of Craigslist same thing different atmosphere.
Friend: *silence* ok how about I just go to a coffee shop
Me: yeah start with that, go to where men hang out at. Hell, I don’t even know where they hang anymore call me when you find a place so I can at least be on the phone with you and do a little shopping myself.
Friend: *laughing* that’s why I called you, you always make me feel better
Conclusion: I don’t know of any man over the age of 30 who is unmarried and got everything together. If you know of one please feel free to let me know. When I say together that means he lives alone, looks good, pays his own bills, has a car, over 30, and makes over 50,000 a year.
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32 Comments
robin rue
February 28, 2018 at 1:03 pmA good man is hard to find. My man definitely doesn’t have it all together, but he is one of the good ones, so I am keeping him 🙂
candy
February 28, 2018 at 1:26 pmI hear this all the time from the single women I know. Have heard some horrible date stories. So glad I found a good one many years ago.
Amber Myers
February 28, 2018 at 1:30 pmI bet it is hard to find a good man. I hear horror stories from single friends. I cannot believe some of the men out there who are so irresponsible. My husband became a dad at 19 and immediately stepped up and got a job. It’s not that hard!
Sheena Steward
February 28, 2018 at 1:46 pmI’m hoping a good man comes into your friend’s life. That’s been a common theme I’ve heard lately with women in their 30s.
AJ
February 28, 2018 at 2:24 pmIt is even harder over 40, as I find like myself and other friends single after divorce. As the years creep up, it is straight difficult meeting like-minded individuals who want a relationship. I agree with not restricting ourselves to only dating in our race. Yes, we may want that ideal but why not exhaust all options.
Ola
February 28, 2018 at 3:13 pmI have the privilege of knowing a couple of men who fit this description of a “good man”, but they live by a WHOLE different set of standards than most their age. They are God-fearing, celibate (hence, no children), respectful to women, and laser focused (and no, they’re not gay). A rare breed – I know.
Natalie
February 28, 2018 at 4:11 pmI can relate to this! Dating is not easy in this day and age. I still have hope though that there are good ones out there.
Kristine Nicole Alessandra
February 28, 2018 at 8:04 pmI don’t know why but I think there is a shortage of men of that type nowadays. I guess I am fortunate I met my husband. He is not making that much money, but he strives to provide for the family in the best way he can and I am fine with that. After all, a marriage is a partnership so I believe both husband and wife should work to keep the family’s finances in check. I also think that since there is a shortage of good, responsible single men nowadays, we parents must make sure we raise our sons to be responsible, loving, sensible adults.
Debra Hawkins
February 28, 2018 at 9:44 pmI can honestly say that I am so glad that I am not in the dating scene. It seems like it has gotten harder with technology.
Sara Welch
February 28, 2018 at 9:46 pmThere are so many mass media events that I blame for ruining some of the good men out there. But the best man hold true to themselves; they are out there girl.
Danielle M Andresen
February 28, 2018 at 9:56 pmI am so far behind on This is Us and I need to catch up. Every time I hear someone talking about it I plugged my ears because I don’t want to have it spoiled. It is also one of the only shows I’ve watched in a very long time.
Tomi C
February 28, 2018 at 10:31 pmGood luck. I’ve been married for 20 years now and I would so hate to be in the dating game nowadays. It’s so different. Oh, when you find out where they hang at, keep it on the hush or you’ll be back in the same boat again.
Lia World Traveler
February 28, 2018 at 10:34 pmDating is rough and some of the options we have out there even rougher. Don’t give up and have faith your man is out there waiting for you.
Mimi Green
February 28, 2018 at 10:34 pmIf I end up single again I’ve already decided that I’m just going to be single. I don’t have the patience to get to know someone and all of their baggage. I’m just going to live my best life and travel more.
Penny
March 1, 2018 at 1:06 amIt is hard work finding that kind of true partner, but it is good work. At least you have electronic advantages, options to travel.
Joanna @ Everyday Made Fresh
March 1, 2018 at 1:09 amI can’t even imagine what it’s like in the dating field these days. I wish you both the best of luck! I will say, and I even laughed at the Craigslist bit, but Match is worth a shot. My dad, who will be 77 this year, found a wonderful woman, who will also be 77 this year on there over a year ago on Match, within the 30 day free trial. She was in his area, and they both had recently lost their spouse. They were more or less looking for companionship with the opposite sex…turns out they fell in love, and got hitched! Seriously, give it a shot, what have you got to lose?! Plus I think that with Match they only send you profiles that you are interested in.
K. Elizabeth
March 1, 2018 at 1:40 amI’ve heard some dating horror stories from some of my friends. As the saying goes, “you have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince.” Best of luck to the both of you.
Karen Morse
March 1, 2018 at 1:40 amIt took me some time to find my husband and I think when you stop looking that’s when you eventually find someone. For now, it’s always best to just enjoy being single and having more time for yourself and your kids!
Jenn @ EngineerMommy
March 1, 2018 at 1:58 amI am glad I am not in the market for a man. It can be so difficult to find the right match nowadays. I don’t envy anyone in that position.
Leslie
March 1, 2018 at 2:52 amDating in this day and age is no joke. I have been a listening ear to many a horror stories. I just say…Keep hope alive!
Heather
March 1, 2018 at 4:37 amIt sounds crazy, but I was looking for specific things and wound up meeting someone who didn’t match most of them. He turned out to be the greatest thing that ever happened to me. 15+ years later, I couldn’t be happier.
Crystal Lewis
March 1, 2018 at 1:13 pmInteresting post. I’m married but my man has flaws (as we all do). I’m terrified of the thought of ever having to enter the dating pool at this age. Good luck to your friend, I’ve heard dating is not for the faint of heart
Carol Cassara
March 1, 2018 at 1:50 pmI got a divorce with my first husband only to find him after so many years and now we’re back in each other’s arms. It’s really tough to find the right one for you. For years, it was simply my choice to just stay single!
Jenn
March 1, 2018 at 3:32 pmI am blessed to have found my husband over 20 years ago. I can’t even imagine dating these days. I could see myself deciding to stay single.
Toiia L. Rukuni
March 1, 2018 at 8:10 pmI have some horrible dating stories, and I have seen some women find the one that is right for them within a few months on the dating scene. I think that it is just a matter of what you are looking for, and who is looking for you!
Angelic SInova
March 1, 2018 at 9:59 pmFinding a good man, or woman, can definitely be challenging. But it’s so important to never settle or seen yourself short. Your find someone when the time is right.
Kasi
March 2, 2018 at 1:20 amHa I know plenty of good men who make great money and are fine and are between 30-35. Only problem is they’re all players, lol.
Amy
March 2, 2018 at 3:59 amI have been luck to find the perfect guy. But I have seen the struggles that my friends have gone through trying to find a good man/woman to partner up with.
Kiwi
March 2, 2018 at 2:58 pmGirl and we are in Atlanta too? Its just the way of the world, the quality of men are far and few it seems.
Nellie
March 2, 2018 at 5:58 pmI always say that if my husband and I break up I’d become a nun. With that said, I’ve seen a few successful relationships result from match.com!
Ashleigh
March 5, 2018 at 3:29 pmThe dating scene really is annoying and I never really liked dating. Now that I’m back on the scene I remember why. I’m not losing hope that there are no good men out there because there are, we just have to find them or let them find us.
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