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December 13, 2017

I was tired of the sham of pretending there was a Santa. I would have thought my 11 year old would have found out by now but he hadn’t so this year I ruined their lives by telling them there is no Santa. Here is how the conversation went…….

Me: Family Meeting

Son: I didn’t do it she did

Daughter: You did it, you do everything

Me: I didn’t call Y’all down here for this shat. I want to talk to you all about something serious

Daughter: You are having another baby?

Me: I don’t like you

Me: Moving on….*I go to grab their hands and look deeply into their eyes* Kids…..There is no Santa

Son: Whaaaaaaa

Daughter: Stop lying….

Me: I’m not lying. There is no Santa. I am the Santa I have been buying presents and wrapping them up

Son: But how? We had presents under the tree last year in Tennessee and you didn’t bring them with you. I helped you pack the trunk when we left to go out of town

Me: I had them in the suitcase and hid them very well

Daughter: *still sitting there in shock*

Me: *to my son* I am surprised you didn’t know by now I would have thought you would have come to me before now and asked. What do you all talk about in school?

Son: Not Santa. We talk about the latest Jordans, jewelry, my acting skills but not about Santa

Daughter: So all this time there was no Santa… have ruined my life, my Christmas, my everything

Me: *to my son* you need to talk about your sisters acting skills because she brings the drama

Me: Look, I’m sorry but I am Santa so technically there is a Santa I just play him and when dad was alive he played Santa so I didn’t really lie I just stretched the truth

Daughter: Well you can’t cook…I didn’t really lie I just stretched the truth because you can cook and I just needed to reply back to you.

Me: I will let you have that one but lil girl…..get over it. Okay…K

Links for the week

What are you leaving in 2017? I am leaving the scared Kita behind and stepping up to do some new things in 2018

I love earrings and this statement piece is so cute! I think I will step my collection up for the holidays!

My daughter said I was lying but many people tell lies…even if it’s a little lie

My Facebook isn’t all that anymore but I am willing to put some effort into it in 2018

I want number 4,9, and 21 hell….just give me the whole list 

If I ever get married again (probably not) I will hire this photographer 

I think I will buy exclusively from Etsy next year! I love all of these

Now I want some Timbs! I remember I bought my first pair with my first check at 16. I want purple ones!





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    December 13, 2017 at 12:52 pm

    We never told our kids there was no Santa. Going to school solved that problem for us. We just let them believe until they were old enough to know there wasn’t a Santa.

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    Amber Myers
    December 13, 2017 at 1:52 pm

    Aw, yeah, my daughter is 10 and told me, “I’ve known for years but you seemed to want me to believe..” Still, it’s always sad when the magic is gone. However, it also means I don’t have to move that dang elf on the shelf as often or wrap gifts is special paper from “Santa.”

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    December 13, 2017 at 1:58 pm

    This was one tradition we actually did not do. I never believed because I had brothers that told me otherwise LOL. My nephew on the other hand is a firm believer and I love seeing the magic in his eyes.

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    Alli Smith
    December 13, 2017 at 2:11 pm

    I never told my kids there was or wasn’t a Santa but I did tell them the story of St. Nicholas. But they did believe. My 10-year-old grandson found out there wasn’t a real Santa a few weeks ago and he was crushed.

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    December 13, 2017 at 2:49 pm

    My parents never told me that Santa was real. They told me from an early age that God was our provider.

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    December 13, 2017 at 5:08 pm

    The dreadful conversation. What prompted you to have it now? I never did, I just let them figure it out then we discussed it.

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    Joanna @ Everyday Made Fresh
    December 13, 2017 at 5:51 pm

    My daughters are 18 and 12…My 12 year old is homeschooled, and still believes. Honestly..I don’t know when I’m gonna tell her. It will break her heart.

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    Tanya Barnett
    December 13, 2017 at 7:45 pm

    We told our kids early there was no Santa. I just don’t believe in lying to my kids about a fictional dude.

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    Crystal Nicole
    December 13, 2017 at 8:37 pm

    I honestly can’t remember if there was ever a “talk” about Santa in my household or not, but I definitely don’t think I’ll push that topic whenever I decide to have children. If they believe in Santa, cool, but if not, that’s fine, too.

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    Jenn @ EngineerMommy
    December 14, 2017 at 12:01 am

    I don’t remember if we had a talk about Santa. As of now, my younger daughter believes in Santa. My older daughter has expressed skepticism to me about it.

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    December 14, 2017 at 12:05 am

    Yes, most parents dread this conversation with their kids. Some kids take it hard, others just seem to figure it out on their own. Your kids so adorable by the way. Love their personalities.

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    December 14, 2017 at 12:09 am

    I am wondering how to handle this exact situation, my kids are 9, 8, and 6 and so far still very much believe in Santa. I am not sure when I will break it to them, I don’t want to scar them or ruin their childhood, but know the time will come when they will figure out the reality of Christmas.

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    valmg @ Mom Knows It All
    December 14, 2017 at 12:14 am

    I loved seeing the magic and joy on my children’s faces. I never told my oldest, when he figured it out he came and asked me and we talked. He knew not to discuss with other children so as not to rob their joy. My youngest is 18 and still believes and every day he does is a blessing for me, wishing otherwise would be very selfish of me.

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    Tomi C
    December 14, 2017 at 3:12 am

    The extremes we go to protect the Santa secret. Oh the extremes we go to. i don’t remember exactly how we told our kids but I remember some of the stories we told about Santa’s ability to deliver toys across the world in one night.

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    December 14, 2017 at 3:42 am

    Wow, that is a pretty extreme conversation. I don’t think my parents ever told me that there wasn’t a Santa. They didn’t have to, but they always created Christmas magic for me and I hope to do the same for my kiddos.

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    Rach Ferrucci
    December 14, 2017 at 6:18 am

    I hate to burst your bubble but if you watch the original Miracle on 34th Street, you will see the real Santa. My husband and I spend a couple days in NY each Christmas because I wait in line for Santa at macy’s because THAT’S where the real Santa is. You just haven’t looked in the right places. We do know that Santa doesn’t bring the presents but he is real in our hearts to this day!

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    December 14, 2017 at 7:04 am

    Listen, the amount of cackling that I’m doing right now! The acting skills of your daughter, and referring your son to her for help! LOL! My oldest announced in kindergarten that there was no Santa, and that all of the kids had parents that delivered whatever presents to them. We had a little talk then – it was okay that HE knew, but he should have let their parents let THEM know.

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    Mimi Green
    December 14, 2017 at 4:26 pm

    I am cracking up laughing at this conversation. My son is 13 and hasn’t believed in years. Some jerk kid ruined it for him in Elementary School. My daughter is 5 and some jerk kid mentioned Santa not being real to her. I was pissed, but encouraged her to believe what she believes.
    I will let her know but I want her to enjoy the “magic” as long as she can.

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    Our Family World
    December 14, 2017 at 8:36 pm

    I always love reading your posts. It is so candid and tells about everyday family life. Me and my husband raised our children in a way that they knew there was no Santa Claus. Instead, there was a Saint Nicholas, a real person who was born and lived in the 3rd centurywho helped the poor and the children by giving anonymously giving them gifts. (Probably this is where the “hiding the gifts” story came from). We made our children grow up believing in the true meaning of Christmas – the birth of Jesus, our Lord and Savior.

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    Nanekia Ansari
    December 14, 2017 at 8:50 pm

    My kids are 20, 13, and 5…I think the baby really doesn’t care as long as she gets the gifts. She’ll take the picture like she did with the Easter bunny because she get sto dress up, beyond that it’s like whatever. I love the back and forth tho, she is dramatic, lol

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    Bianca Dottin
    December 14, 2017 at 9:37 pm

    My daughter is 6 and she knows but isn’t ready to accept it. Your daughter responded exactly how I expect my daughter to respond, with a shady comment.

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    Bohemian Babushka
    December 14, 2017 at 11:27 pm

    Babushka was very sad when she found out Santa was a sham… but would have been sadder if never had him in our lives. The Grands believe and BB is just fine with that. Jolly chubby people are always welcome in our casa. BB2U

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    Michelle Thames
    December 15, 2017 at 1:57 am

    Awww. My daughter is 3. Hoping that she belives for a little while. Its kinda fun for us. I know when she finds out though that she will be hurt.

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    Debra Schroeder
    December 15, 2017 at 4:31 am

    We never told our kids there wasn’t a Santa. We just figured out they would figure it out for themselves and they did.

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    December 15, 2017 at 4:51 am

    First, your kids are pretty funny! I know its always a controversial issue, but each family chooses. I never really did the Santa thing, but I tried with the tooth fairy. My son however wanted to see if it was me doing it so he lost a tooth and didn’t tell me. He actually told me this yesterday. Hats off to you for setting the record straight.

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    December 15, 2017 at 9:48 am

    I clearly remember finding my Santa gifts one year and my Mom told me the truth. I was crushed but then I got to help make it fun for my little brother and sister!

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    December 15, 2017 at 11:43 am

    Lmaoooo I absolutely adore the conversations you have with your kids! I figured it out very early that Santa wasn’t real because he had the same handwriting as my mother hahaha

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    December 15, 2017 at 11:52 am

    Lawd!!! You kids are an absolute trip. I need timbs too! My first pair? 18. Looooooved them!

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    December 15, 2017 at 2:36 pm

    I remember figuring it out for myself when I was 8. My brother believed for a long time. My husband and I are now trying to figure out if we even want to let our son believe in santa. He’s 1.5 now so we have time to figure out but not much.

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    December 15, 2017 at 5:39 pm

    My mom and dad never let me believe in Santa. They wanted us to know exactly where there hard earned money went! LOL

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    Dina Demarest
    December 15, 2017 at 9:08 pm

    I remember having this similar conversation with my kids! Haha!

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    Fi Ni Neachtain
    December 16, 2017 at 4:11 pm

    I remember when my mam revealed the secret to me too, although I already knew I kind of wished she had let me have that one last Christmas, lol! This Santa stuff is complicated!

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    Katherine G
    December 20, 2017 at 5:18 pm

    Girl! Your daughter fully cracked me up. I can’t believe she said that to you. Yeah we broke the whole no Santa thing to my kids when they were like 7 and 8. Money was tight so there was no reason to fake the funk. I am with you on leaving the scary behind. I’m leaving the scary Katherine behind.

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