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Why are some people failing at business and life?

May 17, 2017

I had to take a second to think about some things over the course of the past few weeks. When you start reevaluating your life you start to see areas of where you failed. You start to see hmmmm If I had done this then maybe this would have happened. If you had done that then maybe that would have happened. We all fail at something in our lives and we don’t like to admit it. When marriages fall apart we are quick to blame the other women but did you look at what you did in your marriage that may have drove him out. It could be flipped….women cheat to and when that other man comes in….what did you do to drive her to that. One of the questions I asked a guy friend the other day is what did you do to drive her crazy? You are having problems in your marriage and she wasn’t like that when you married her unless you marry what you have been comfortable in. I was watching Iyanla fix my life (the latest with Neffee) and saw dysfunction…..when we are use to something we marry it. When we are use to dysfunction we carry it with us like bags and we don’t unpack it. We carry that same baggage into business and throughout life. So let’s take a look at some scenarios of why people may fail at business and life…..

You have the business owner who can’t catch a break. Every time you look she is trying to sell sell sell. When I see someone trying to sell so bad I think one of two things…..they don’t have customers which means their products aren’t that good or they need money to live. Have you ever seen someone who sells you something or posts up on FB about what they are selling at least 4 times a week? You wonder hmmmmmmm why isn’t their product moving. Is it because they don’t get out and network, where is their repeat customers, does their product look appealing. These are questions you have to ask yourself when you are trying to sell stuff. Would you buy your own products? Be real and stop playing the victim. Stop trying to pop your link in various FB groups trying to get eyes on your website or your page when you know good and well your stuff isn’t sellable.

The person who doesn’t have any friends. Why don’t you have any friends? Not one? When people don’t have one or two good friends I find a problem in that. That means something is wrong with you. Maybe it’s how you speak to people, maybe it’s because you’ve been hurt so much that you don’t bother to let others in. When I see people with 0 friends I run……that means they need to take some stock into what they do and bring to the table.

The person who is all over the place. You know the ones…..they start school then quit, they start another business then quit, they quit at everything. I often wonder why then when you look at their background you can kind of see. They never finish anything because they give up. Most of the time these people are perfectionists they want things to be perfect when in fact no one is perfect but God and when they realize that they have to let some of that control go, they get scared and quit. Or maybe it’s because they never achieved anything as a young child and they see this as a pattern of well at least I started that’s more than others. It’s just not working for me so I have to quit and move on. Or maybe no one around them succeeded and people who raised them quit at everything….

The person who does what everyone else does. They have no original idea…they follow everyone else and think they can make it. They follow and do what others do in relationships, business, and life. They have no mind of their own and wonder why they can’t succeed. They see the grass and want the same but God blesses the child that has their own. Have your own idea and make it work for you. Yes there are 3 places to buy burgers at, but each one does things different. When you look at Wendy’s, Mcdonalds, and Burger King you see some difference. They all sell burgers but which one would you go to first? Which one of these places do you hate? Which one takes marketing to a new level?

The person who has fear of stepping out of their comfort zone. This is me! I fear stepping out of my comfort zone because I like to know whats going on. I like to have things planned out….I like to have some control. I hate when things aren’t in my control. It’s one of the reasons I don’t fly….I like to control things. It’s bad and it keeps me from succeeding in business and in life. If I can ever step out of my bubble….I can see what good things lie on the other side.

The person who doesn’t unpack baggage from the past. Do you know that some of us are our mothers? The people who we don’t want to be like but we are them in some form or fashion. Our mothers are in relationship after relationship and then we follow the same pattern and still look at our mothers as if they are crazy when we in fact are doing the same thing. Our parents never showed us love so we don’t know how to recognize it when we see it and we don’t know how to give it back. We grow up in drama and then marry someone who brings nothing but drama to our lives. You see the pattern here…….we are failing.

Over the past weeks I have been doing some soul searching in my life. Looking at past mistakes, things I could have done better, things I could have not done at all. It’s funny as I approach my late 30’s I am seeing things from a different perspective. I have been living in my thoughts and letting the past creep up on me. I am succeeding in business but could I be doing better? Am I 100% happy or just halfway there? What’s missing? I don’t want to go into my 40’s regretting anything else in my life so I want to start doing things differently. I fail because of the baggage I haven’t unpacked. I fail because I am afraid to step out of my comfort zone. I am determined to take all the past mistakes and redo them for the future so that I don’t fail at anything else. I might falter but I won’t fail.

Why do you some people fail at business and life? Would love to hear your thoughts!

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    Alli Smith
    May 19, 2017 at 12:07 pm

    I’m the one who hates stepping outside my comfort zone! I have to give myself a big push to get out of that place that’s familiar and comfortable. Thankfully, as I get older, I’m learning to let go of some things and not feel like I always have to be in control. As a perfectionist, it’s not easy!

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    candy
    May 19, 2017 at 12:15 pm

    Always good to step back and take a look at what is going on and evaluate. Don’t be over harsh on yourself. I know a woman who is all over the place and copies everything someone else does. She wonders why she never gets anywhere.

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    Amber Myers
    May 19, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    I think some people fail because they don’t follow the rules. Some people are just downright cocky, and you can’t be like that. Or else you fail.

    I also fear stepping out of my comfort zone, but I’ve been trying to do it more and more.

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    Jeanette
    May 19, 2017 at 1:44 pm

    I think it depends on the person’s attitude. If someone is always down and negative who wants to be around that? I think if you have a better perspective on life, stuff is naturally is easier to do. I’m not saying it’s always puppies and rainbows but pulling yourself up by your bootstraps says a lot about your character.

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    Kemkem
    May 19, 2017 at 2:34 pm

    There are multiple reasons why people fail. A big one that l see repeated over and over is simply saying please and thank you at the end. It’s amazing how someone can ask for your help and find the time to write 10 emails, text you, call you etc. and once you help them, nothing. Not a simple thank you or acknowledgement. Zip! Call them on it and they will all of a sudden say they were “busy”. Yeah.. Do that to enough people and there you go…pleas go unanswered and things fail to sell. I observe this on FB all the time :-).

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    HeidiDee
    May 19, 2017 at 8:10 pm

    I am definitely that perfectionist lol! I have only realized recently how much of a perfectionist that I am and starting to work on it. You have to really know yourself to be able to truly change your habits!

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    Pam
    May 20, 2017 at 1:25 am

    I know several people who are the kind to always jump from project to project and job to job. They never finish anything.

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    Jenn
    May 20, 2017 at 3:44 am

    I have to really fight with myself to move outside of my comfort zone. Once I do it, I’m usually glad that I did, but it’s never easy for me.

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    nadeen
    May 20, 2017 at 5:34 am

    From where I am standing I feel you are definitely succeeding in life. I am sure your children feel the same. There is always room for improvement and I think its impossible to live without regret but you have to try to live your best life in the now, looking and planning ahead for the future. I do hope you get ti fly soon and go somewhere you have always wanted to!

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    Teresa
    May 20, 2017 at 5:56 am

    I ted to give people a whole lot of grace in regards to everything that you do not like about people. You can ever know what is going on i someone else’s life, so I ever pass judgment and always just try to be kid ad generous with my time and anything else that I have to offer.

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    Tione
    May 20, 2017 at 2:05 pm

    This post is so realistic. I can relate to a lot of stuff being said… In no way am I a perfectionist but I try to make the best out of what I have. As they say when one door close many doors open, it is your choice to find those open doors and work with it.

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    Sarah Bailey
    May 20, 2017 at 3:23 pm

    I think there are so many reasons why people fail, often perhaps for not having enough belief in themselves which is a shame.

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    Anosa
    May 20, 2017 at 8:16 pm

    I have issues with unpacking my baggage and that can lead to failure. This was a really well written post

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    Maurene Cab
    May 20, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    This is a good food for thought blog. I know there are a lot of reasons for businesses to failure.

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    Jay Colby
    May 20, 2017 at 10:51 pm

    Love this article. This is a great topic that sometimes doesn’t get as much attention.

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    Emma Spellman
    May 21, 2017 at 12:18 am

    I think people fail at business because they don’t want to read and put in the work they just want it to all magically fall into place. You need to read and eduacate yourself and put in the work.

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    L.C. @ A Life of Authenticity
    May 21, 2017 at 1:31 am

    I applaud you for taking the time to be introspective and ask yourself the tough questions. Only growth will come from that! Good luck.

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    Jaime Nicole
    May 21, 2017 at 2:10 am

    It can be hard to ask tough questions of yourself! Good job for taking a hard look – it’s something we all need to do from time to time.

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    Debra J Hawkins
    May 21, 2017 at 5:25 am

    I think some people fail because they appear too desperate. They try and force it on others so much that people truly pull away.

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    Stacie
    May 21, 2017 at 2:38 pm

    This.right.here! You are making me take a long look at some of the places I fit in this article. Being reflective can help us break out of a rut and actually start growing.

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    Lily@militaryfamof8
    May 21, 2017 at 3:26 pm

    I think people gets fail in their business because they dont have much patience to do their work and have a research more on how to be successful.

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    My Teen Guide
    May 21, 2017 at 3:45 pm

    Stepping out of your comfort zone can scare you out of your wits. But of course, in order for us to grow, we have to take that first, dreadful step. I did, years ago and I am sure glad I did. Lots of opportunities opened up and I became the person I always wanted to be.

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    chubskulit
    May 21, 2017 at 6:14 pm

    When I was in college, I used to sell stuff and I was good at it. Selling is something that can give you good source of income but you have to have that charm and ability.

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    Kasi
    May 22, 2017 at 7:16 am

    Great and insightful post! I have been working on taking a leap of faith and stepping out of my comfort zone to step into things I feel God has called me to do.

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    Elle (CleverlyChanging)
    May 22, 2017 at 11:21 am

    This weekend my pastor said something profound. He stated that direction determines your destiny not good intentions. Thus, we often fail because we have no plan. No order of operation, and no real guidance. We can’t just believe or wish to succeed we have to use some elbow grease to get there.

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    Carissa Godbott
    May 22, 2017 at 12:35 pm

    Great Article…and definitely something that I needed to read! Stepping out of my comfort zone is really hard but its something that I know I am going to have to do to reach my goals!

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    Kiwi
    May 22, 2017 at 6:54 pm

    Preach Kita! I believe people are failing at buisnesses/life/relationships etc…you dont know yourself or what you want. When the vision isnt clear it will fall apart. Alignment with positivity and a positive mind for great results it a good fountation to succeed in anything.

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    Jenny
    May 22, 2017 at 11:31 pm

    It’s hard trying to step out of the comfort zone. I had to push myself to do something yesterday that I wasn’t comfortable with but after I did it, I felt relieved and better! Just gotta do it sometimes.

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    Tomiko
    May 23, 2017 at 2:10 am

    I embrace change and try to always be positive and speak positivity over my life. I’m a big believer in your tongue speak life into your world. So even when I don’t feel like being positive I fake it till I make it

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    Mimi Green
    May 23, 2017 at 6:21 pm

    I watch Iyanla and girl while I’m watching I’m looking over my own life. I’m trying to figure out how I can be better. Let me make sure I’m addressing my baggage.

    Fear of jumping out there is my biggest issue.

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    Daria
    May 23, 2017 at 6:54 pm

    I would like to eventually sell my Avon full-time and blog full-time. I’m tired of working the 7 to 4 around the clock hours. I want to be finally free to make my own rules and be my own boss. With that, I have to plan carefully before I actually take that step and step completely out of my comfort zone. So much to consider. Thanks for sharing!

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    Danielle
    May 23, 2017 at 7:20 pm

    This was on point! I’m striving daily to push myself out of my comfort zone. It’s not easy but it’s the only way to grow.

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    Ayak
    May 24, 2017 at 1:17 pm

    This post is so refreshing & Insightful. So used to the glossed over…’Well heres how to do better’ posts but actually shining the spotlight on why we are fallible. I think fear is the main reason for every last example. We are socialised to be fearful in order to fit in with conventional jobs, marriages…lives in general. Finding your own voice is that most important thing we can do for ourselves & for evolution. Anyway great post x

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