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My son and I are fat as hell!

August 18, 2016

Yeah it’s true! My son and I are fat. I like to make sure I call a thing a thing. I don’t sugarcoat anything and it’s time to get real. I am 5’2 and I weigh over 200lbs that’s not good for my height at all. My son is short and in the 5th grade and wears a 14 husky. So how did we get like this? Well for me I got fat when I lost my mother see I was never a big girl I was always under 120lbs but when life happens….it happens. I gained a lot of weight and I have not been able to get it off. My son doesn’t get out and exercise because he has severe allergies so his outside play is limited. I still try to get him to walk up and down the stairs and move more but it’s not the same when we don’t go outside and physically move. Do I want to lose the weight? Yes but not all of if…I actually like being a bit thick so my goal is to get down to 150lbs. My son needs to lose about 20lbs so we are on a mission. If you follow me on snapchat (@reallykita) I try to keep up with my weight loss journey on there.

There are many cases to obesity so let’s discuss 5 of them

Diet – I actually use to cook……that is until my husband died and I have the kids in everything under the sun. I think it’s because I want to make sure I keep them as busy as possible so that they don’t sit and think. See that’s what happened to me…I sat and sat and then ate and ate didn’t move around and involve myself into anything. So the weight piled on. As soon as the hubs died I enrolled my son into boxing, my daughter into swim, and a whole host of other stuff. I don’t have time to cook a good meal as I also run my own business so we eat out a lot…I think I may have cooked 5 times the entire summer…….yeah it’s bad. We have to do better! I don’t buy soda in the house so thats a good thing but I do need to make sure we are doing small things for our diet. My son can no longer have seconds, he has to cut his juice in half with water, and no dessert but on Sundays. After school he has to have a healthy snack or nothing at all.

Genes – So my mother was never fat as a matter of fact no one is my family is fat. So when I went home and people looked at me the first thing they said was my gawd you are fat as hell. Now my hubs family….they are fat…yeah it’s a huge problem…no pun intended. I do not think fat runs in your genes I think fat runs into …your family cooks a certain way and you eat it then you cook the same way and feed your family and so on and so forth. It’s not a gene thing its a culture thing. If you grow up eating hammock and collard greens on a daily then you will cook that and it will be passed down so the “genes” of fat is being passed down through the cooking. Change the way you eat and cook and the gene stops there

Sleep – I am a night owl….I can’t sleep at night. I have tried but it’s not happening. I usually go to bed at 4 in the mornings and now that school is back in session I gotta get up at 5:30 to get kids up and out with breakfast, grooming, and I have to drive them to school. So I sleep in the mornings while they are in school. When I come back I crash until time to pick them up and that is the best rest that I get. I have no idea why my body is so use to that but it is. I can’t function until after 12pm on any day. Sleep is a huge factor in how weight is gained. If you aren’t’ getting rest you tend to eat more which leads to more weight gain.

No movement – So as I said the biggest thing for my son and I is we don’t move. See I am a social media manager for various companies and I sit behind my computer on a daily basis and I don’t move. My son who has allergies can’t go outside as often as we would like so he doesn’t ride bikes or play any sports. Now he does do boxing and he swims but that’s about it. Both of those activities are indoors and both are physical but he still hasn’t lost any weight. For me I am trying to walk and do more steps per day. I would like a personal trainer but some of them look like they kill your ass so I am going to opt to take it slow and start off walking. I manage to get in a 3 mile walk 3 times a week and that has been good. Yes I bring my son along with me and it’s reeked havoc on his allergies but oh well we combat with his meds (which I try not to use so much because those things are costly and I don’t want to run out) If I can’t get outside we walk up and down our stairs for 5 minutes.

Bad habits – I have a bad habit of drinking sweet tea or snacking at my computer often. I have to kick this bad habit. My son has a bad habit of going back for seconds……….these are things that we need to stop. Going to the grocery store hungry….has to stop. Ordering the highest calorie food…has to stop. We are working on it as we speak and hope to have better habits by the end of the year.

So are you on the big side? How do you manage to lose weight? I know diets are huge I have tried weight watchers but I didn’t last long. I am not into the fad diets I am more into moving slowly and keeping the weigh off. More water, less grains, no sodas, less sweets.

My son and I are fat as hell

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    Kenya G. Johnson
    August 18, 2016 at 12:38 pm

    I have to fight my genes – blood pressure and cholestorol. I “look” healthy but I need to be in my healthy weight range to not need to be on meds. As you know I don’t like heat, that means I’m not crazy about sweating. I can easily walk and enjoy it when my face is about to freeze off but summers are hard because their isn’t a cool time of day, not even for a breezy bike ride. I found some walking videos on youtube. You can walk faster or slower and get it in. I watch the videos and play my own music, I still sweat but it’s better in the ac. Truly a good workout and until I get outside again, I always say it’s better than nothing.

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    August 19, 2016 at 12:23 pm

    Cheering for you on your road to a health Kita. And it’s great to have a place like this to share and help hold yourself accountable. Your incredible for sharing this story and I know it will help others.

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    August 19, 2016 at 4:50 pm

    Good luck with your weight loss journey. My bad habit is snacking all day instead of eating actual meals.

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    August 19, 2016 at 5:28 pm

    I love to snack at the computer while I work too. I eat healthy snacks so they fill me up but I don’t feel bad afterwords.

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    August 19, 2016 at 11:46 pm

    Most people don’t realize that depending on the person/family, obesity can be genetic. Just because someone is over weight, it doesn’t mean that they are lazy and eat too many cheeseburgers.

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    Toni | BoulderLocavore.com
    August 20, 2016 at 12:28 am

    Bad habits and everyday lifestyle are the biggest factors why we gain weight. I think the only solution is a change in lifestyle. And yes, it’s not easy! But I think you and your son can do it! Good luck to both of you!

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    August 20, 2016 at 2:17 am

    It sounds like you know how you put on the weight and what you need to do to take it off. My husband is the same. He knows he needs portion control on top of exercising. He just lacks the motivation to set it in motion. Good luck on your weight loss journey!

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    August 20, 2016 at 1:06 pm

    It sounds like you have a great plan for losing the weight in a healthy way. Can’t wait to follow along on the journey.

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    August 20, 2016 at 1:40 pm

    I think it’s all about portion control. My son’s pediatrician was getting concerned about Pookah at the beginning of the summer. And even though he was eating basically healthy food, his portions were awful and he wasn’t getting much exercise. I put him in football and a camp that had them active everyday and I stopped him from having so many “seconds” and that worked. It’s all about movement and portion control. When I saw it working for him, I tried the same and it’s working. SLOWLY lol, but it’s working. I just have to get up and move everyday and watch my portions. Girl it’s harder to get this weight off the older we get!

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    Kelly Hutchinson
    August 20, 2016 at 2:50 pm

    I wish you luck in your goals and for your son, too! It’s not always about the weight, it is all about being healthy though. Good luck!

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    August 20, 2016 at 2:56 pm

    I’ve had terrible habits this summer. Eating out, not working out. It’s rough to get into a better routine, though I know I need to.

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    August 20, 2016 at 4:21 pm

    It’s sounds like you are on the road to getting healthy and that’s the most important thing! Wishing you a speedy and easy road ahead. You got this girl!

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    August 20, 2016 at 5:13 pm

    I gained a lot of weight after my last child was born. It took awhile to get it off and it was alarming since it was so easy with the other three. I feel better too, but it took a lot of walking to get back in shape.

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    August 20, 2016 at 11:27 pm

    Losing weight is not easy at all. I hope you are able to kick any bad habits and commit to a healthy lifestyle. My husband has been on the path to healthy living for several years and it’s so rewarding for him. He’s lost 50lbs.

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    August 21, 2016 at 1:18 am

    Everything changed for me when I started moving every day. Walking for 30min or doing situps during commercial breaks watching tv. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    Louise Bishop
    August 21, 2016 at 3:41 pm

    I’m definitely a night owl as well. I tend to snack a lot while I work at night and I think that’s one of my biggest issues. It’s so hard to break though!

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    Nikki Wayne
    August 22, 2016 at 2:49 am

    I started eating in portion and it works well with me. I wish my body can metabolized more.

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    August 22, 2016 at 6:31 pm

    It’s nice that you’re seeing the problem. That’s where you can start making healthy choices, also just being active every day is helpful.

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    Joyce Brewer (@MommyTalkShow)
    August 23, 2016 at 4:45 pm

    Finding time to BE active is the biggest hurdle for me. We’ve trimmed our budget, so I don’t want to do a gym membership unless I really, really use it.
    I’d have to wake up super early or workout when our son is in school – which is really my professional work time.
    My advice – try a few different elimination diets. Ones that cut sugar or reduce fat. See which ones works best for you.
    I liked South Beach – except it’s heavy on fish and nuts – two things our son is allergic to.

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