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My relationship with HOA

May 19, 2016

If you own a home or live in certain communities then you will know what HOA stands for. If you don’t it stand for Home Owners Association. An HOA is the governing body of the development or complex, usually comprising homeowners who have volunteered to serve on the HOA board. Basically it’s the po po of where you live and the person who polices your community. I had to pay them my first fee a few weeks ago……

Back Story

So I just moved into a brand new home in April. I love my home and my community but I was leery of being a part of HOA. When I moved in my grass was cut but after about a week it grew fast…really fast and I could not find anyone to come and cut my yard. I called over 23 people they either said they would be there to give me a price or that they would stop by to cut the next day. Out of 23 people only one showed up so I let him cut the yard. He was expensive too $70 bucks and my yard isn’t even that big but I was desperate so I paid it. A week later my grass was back to growing and I wasn’t feeling paying that $70 so I started calling around again….couldn’t find anyone. Then I remembered my neighbor at my old house would always cut his grass and he had a truck so I asked him to come cut mine. He could not get to me until that Saturday (I called that Wed). On Thursday I came home to not one note, not two notes but three notes and a bill for $50 saying that my grass was a problem and that I was fined for not having it cut. There was a note in my door, one on my garage, and one in my mailbox. I paid the fine and got it cut that Saturday…that next Monday I went out to buy me my own lawn equipment so that I can cut my own grass just in case I couldn’t find anyone.

Now that you know the back story….here is my problem. Yes I know my grass was in need of being cut but when other people’s grass is just as ugly as mine and they didn’t get a note…that rubs me the wrong way. Was I being picked on? Is it because I am the youngest person in my community who has a home? I don’t know what it was but I was pissed when I asked the lady 4 doors down if she received a note because her grass came to my knees.

I love HOA for the reasons that it keeps the community looking good, it pays for certain things like sidewalks, trash, upkeep of street lights, pools, etc. I don’t like them because they can be very sickening + I don’t know how I feel about someone telling me what I can and can’t do with the outside of my house. I mean I get it….some people lack common sense and will change their shutters to bright green when the rest of the community has brown ones….I get it but still. I have a love hate relationship with HOA

Here are some guidelines for dealing with HOA that may help you if you are thinking about purchasing a home with HOA. If you live in an HOA community chime in with your comments about what you love/hate about it.

  • If you don’t like being told what to do with a house that you pay the mortgage on then maybe HOA isn’t right for you. I know that we work hard to pay mortgages and sometimes we can get irritated with people telling us that we can’t put a certain flower bush in the front, or that we can’t change the light figures on our home, it can be a lot.
  • Know the rules…did you know that some HOA’s can foreclose on your property or take you to court if you don’t pay….Yeah I found that out when I had to go to court for something unrelated…people were there because they were sued by the HOA. Know what you can and can’t do to the front of your house. I changed my lights to security lights on my house….I am a badass. I wish they would come and tell me to change my lights…I won’t. I didn’t see anything written where I can’t change my lights in the book they had better not make it up as they go.
  • If you are buying a new home make sure that home owner didn’t owe HOA because you do not…I repeat…you do not want anyone else problem.
  • Ask about where the fees are gong too. My HOA is $200 a year. It’s supposed to pay for a pool…that I haven’t seen yet *side eye*

HOA is a good thing as it protects the neighborhood from looking a mess. It can also be very very irritating. The lady across from me was fined for her children yelling…she asked me if they gave me a letter. Ma’am my kids stay in the house they have severe allergies so we aren’t outside. Don’t be bringing me into your shanigans. Do you have HOA in your community? Is it worth it?

My relationship with HOA

  • Reply
    May 19, 2016 at 1:24 pm

    I’m fine with ours and it pays for the lights and any trifling arse neighbor’s (like a raggedy fence or your car in your grass). Been here 15 years and no problems but ours isn’t anywhere near as strict as some. Like my mom’s is crazy and I swear they have weekly meetings from the way she talks about them LOL

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    May 20, 2016 at 12:11 pm

    I don’t have an HOA because I live in the country on several acres. I keep my grass mowed, etc. I can see where an HOA would come in handy to keep the neighborhood looking great, but everyone should be treated equal and I definitely wouldn’t like someone telling me when to mow my lawn, etc. And that fine? Knowing you had just moved in? That’s just crazy!

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    May 20, 2016 at 12:18 pm

    Oh wow! This would really drive me crazy! If I’m paying HOA for a pool, or whatever, I think it should be there for your use. I don’t really know how I would feel about HOA, because I live in a small town and in the neighborhood I live in, we don’t have that. I’ve watched shows, remodeling shows, where homes have HOA. I don’t think I would be a fan of someone telling me what to do with my own yard or house.

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    Terri Beavers
    May 20, 2016 at 1:27 pm

    I don’t have a hoa here thank goodness because I’d be annoyed if I wanted to do something and they didn’t approve. I can see how they could come in handy if someone wanted to do something completely random in the neighborhood that would deter to the look of the place.

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    Heather @ Kraus House Mom
    May 20, 2016 at 1:55 pm

    There is no way I would ever live in an HOA community. My husband would be in a fight with someone every other day. If it’s my house and I’m paying the bills, I’m doing what I want to it.

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    Liz Mays
    May 20, 2016 at 8:21 pm

    I can definitely see HOA getting annoying. It would be nicer if they were willing to talk to you about all of the fees and where exactly the money is going.

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    May 20, 2016 at 8:32 pm

    Really understanding how HOA truly works is important before you actual commit to joining one. I know for a fact that being in a HOA is not suitably for my family.

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    May 21, 2016 at 2:53 pm

    I have never lived where there is an HOA, and honestly up until this last year I had no clue what it even was! I only figured it out by reading friends on FB that are in the states who have it.

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    May 21, 2016 at 2:54 pm

    I don’t think I could live where there is an HOA, as I have heard amazing stories or awful stories/experiences. To me, I have lived all my life being able to be in charge of properties and not have any rules really – even when renting, I really enjoy that. Also, I love doing my own yardwork and landscaping. It’s fun for me.

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    Bella B (xoxoBella)
    May 21, 2016 at 3:27 pm

    I don’t know much about a HOA and I don’t think they are as common here. I can see where there are benefit…keeps everyone accountable to create a lovely community.

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    May 21, 2016 at 5:12 pm

    I’ve never lived anywhere with HOA, I don’t know how I’d handle it really because I like doing my own thing, and what I want.. I would also always want to know where all my money is going!

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    Nancy L.
    May 21, 2016 at 5:53 pm

    I can so relate to your love/hate relationship with your HOA, Kita. About 10 years ago, we lived in a development with an HOA that didn’t allow satellite dishes. Not even a small one. I understand people not wanting someone with a NASA sized satellite in their front yard, but not even a small one on the back or side of the house is ridiculous.
    I hope you get your pool soon and shame on the HOA for not at least giving you a POLITE warning or stop by and say hello and maybe offer the name of a landscaper cutting other lawns in the neighborhood. The other neighbors better have received fines too! Ooooh…that makes me mad.
    Hope things only improve from now on! 🙂

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      May 23, 2016 at 12:37 am

      Ours don’t allow it in the front of the house it has to be on the side or in the back and not near the air conditioner units…its a hassle!

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    Rebecca Swenor
    May 21, 2016 at 8:46 pm

    I have never been in a HOA community before but what I am reading I would choose not to move in there. Everywhere I have lived I have never had a problem with my neighbors keeping their yards looking nice. If I were you I would say something to the HOA about the pool too. Thanks for sharing your experience.

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    May 21, 2016 at 10:53 pm

    I have never looked into this HOA before. I would have being told what to do with my house while I am under a relationship with them

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    Michele D
    May 22, 2016 at 11:49 am

    Don’t like mine at all. The worst ppl to govern property. They play favoritism but yet let things fly by. This is a helpful article because most ppl have no idea what they are up against when moving to a subdivison with an HOA.

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    Carin Kilby Clark
    May 22, 2016 at 4:08 pm

    I can definitely relate to your love/hate relationship with the HOA! I love the benefits of maintaining a certain standard in the community but it can also be a real pain in the *** at times.

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    Bren Pace
    May 22, 2016 at 6:15 pm

    Hey Kita,

    I know some folks who have HOA’s and they say it’s a pain in the bum. When we were looking at homes, over 12 years ago, an HOA was one thing I didn’t want to have. I like doing things my way, not how some association thinks I should. Good luck with your!


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    Stephanie Pass
    May 22, 2016 at 6:36 pm

    I feel your pain. I love the HOA and I hate it. We get warnings for the dumbest things, by the time we get the warning, it’s been over a week since we had the problem taken care of ourselves. However, the HOA is terrible at maintaining our playground and park area. They should be fined for how long the grass gets and how they let the fence go into disrepair.

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    May 24, 2016 at 4:57 am

    We had some serious problems with our own HOA. They have been imposing several dues to us. When we questioned it and asked for supporting documents, they couldn’t present any. Homeowners should be really smart and should do their own research about their rights and responsibilities so these HOA officers will not take advantage of them.

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    Kenya G. Johnson
    May 25, 2016 at 6:07 pm

    I think an HOA is great when it covers neighborhood amenities. We have lived in one and did receive a note a time or two about the leaves to rake. The one we live in now doesn’t have an HOA and I see the downsides are the potholes. I don’t know who patches them up but they get done, just not quickly. There was someone in the neighborhood for the longest that kept their BOAT on a trailer thing parked ON the street. It was an eyesore. I’m glad I wasn’t the house across from them that had to look at it. Then there is another one that has a corner house and no fence so you can see their backyard and they have one of the big light blue above ground pools. It’s ugly too. One thing people should keep in mind when having a HOA is to budget for it just like any other bill. Ours in Florida was $90 a quarter which is cheap compared to ones that I’ve heard of now.

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    Jennifer Tyree
    May 25, 2016 at 7:32 pm

    $200 a year aint bad though. I know my moms is $$$ and she pays like every 3 months or so. When we buy a house, I’d think I’d want to know what I can and can’t do with the HOA. If it’s too restrictive, I don’t want to. But, I definitely see the perks to having one. I just hate that they think they’re the end all be all.

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    July 6, 2016 at 7:33 pm

    Our HOA is useless. We have about 40 homes in the development, 350 a year fees. Not public area, they hire drunks for snow removal (tore up a few mailboxes and yards several years in a row). I truly wish we could rid of them. It’s more of a money grab and they get away with because there is no regulation. Homeowners have to pay an enormous fee to dispute anything received by the HOA

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    May 31, 2017 at 3:30 pm

    We have an HOA and it is a love hate relationship. I like that we don’t have to take care of the lawn or any outside maintenance. We recently had a leak in our storage unit and the HOA fixed it. It took a week with all the storage stuff in our house, but it was fixed at no cost to us. However, our HOA president is a hawk. He walks the neighborhood at least once a day and peers over people’s fences to check for infractions. It’s a thankless job and no one else wants to do it, but sometimes I feel he goes overboard.

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      May 31, 2017 at 3:55 pm

      We have one that walks around too he does it early in the mornings at like 5am like for real….talking about he just out for a walk and usually within a few days someone has a letter on their door.

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