Missing my mom + Wed. Links

My mom and I talked every day. I miss her talks so since mothers day is approaching I wanted to dedicate this conversation to my mom in honor of mother’s day. My mom was funny and very blunt she told the truth even more harshly than me but she was fair and funny. I remember so many of our convos and this one stood out in my head for some reason I don’t know.

Scene: In front of the church after church services let out greeting people and gossiping ( I was around 12 or 13 when this conversation took place and I was standing with my mom and her friend)

Mom’s friend: Did you see such and such baby isn’t she cute

Mom: Now you no good and well that baby is ugly

Here comes the mom with the baby coming out the front door my mom and her friend greet the lady.

Mom’s friend: Awww look at the baby hello cute baby

Mom: The baby is dressed very nice

The lady and her baby go and speak with someone else

Mom’s friend: My gosh SJ (that’s what they called my mom) you could have been nicer

Mom: I don’t know why people think all babies are cute they are not. Stop lying to people who have babies tell them the truth if you can’t tell them the baby is ugly then don’t say anything about being cute because then they will think their child is cute.

Me: *mortified* Mom I don’t think that was nice

Mom: Kita, let me tell you something that’s what’s wrong with people these days no one tells them the truth they go around thinking everything is ok because no one is real with them. I will always be real with you whether you like it or not so get used to it because the world is not nice and life is not going to be kind to you. Learn how to accept the truth and make the best out of it. 

Conclusion: From that day forward I looked at my mom and her friends in a different light. She was always honest with them, always honest with me and did not care whether people liked it or not. When she passed people said that she was always honest with them and they may not have liked it but they respected her for it. Have you ever told someone the truth, I mean the real truth in their face? I only tell the truth to someone who asks me. I went to a party for my sons friend and the mom cooked for the party everyone at the party tasted the food and the expression on their face were priceless (they hated the food one mother spit the food right back out) when the mother came out to ask me how the food was I said it was nasty the rice was undercooked and the meat had no seasonings….she cried but after I told the truth everyone else started chiming in. I did not tell her in a mean way but I told her the truth I showed her a few tricks and she was able to correct the situation before more guests started coming in. What truths have you told lately? 

Wed Links

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This summer I am going to create a style shoot and do one once a month starting in June.

Summer is here and I still have my wardrobe lit thanks to Lane Bryant

Did you all know I had to have someone come to my house to teach me how to use my charcoal grill?

It’s teacher appreciation week for us. I don’t like all of my kid’s teachers but I will be fair