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Love thy neighbor as thyself

September 22, 2016

I am not a neighborly person. Back in the day it was nice to know your neighbor…sit on their porch and talk about things while sipping on iced tea. Today though……it’s a hi and a bye for me. I think mainly because I don’t want to have any bad blood against anyone especially those that live in my neighborhood. I gotta see these people and if I cuss them out….I still gotta see these people. I don’t know about you but when I cuss someone out I do not want to see them again…at all. Neighbors come in all different varieties so let’s discuss a few

The Nosy Neighbor – Let’s go ahead and start with the neighborhood snitch. This person knows everything from the car you drive to the packages you bring in. They peep your every move. The nosy neighbor is the one that talks to you the most. You don’t know much about them besides the fact that they are nosy. Isn’t it funny that the nosy neighbor knows all of your business but you know nothing about them. I had a neighbor in my last subdivision who was nosy…..she knew everything but I didn’t even know her name, nor what car she drove…..did she even drive? It was funny because when the hubs died she put a card in my mailbox with my name on it and I am like how does she know my name. My name wasn’t on the news or anything……I am still trying to figure out to this day how she knew my name and it puzzles me.

The neighbor who borrows stuff – There was a neighbor who borrowed our lawnmower…our weed eater……our flashlight (for what I don’t know their light was on) our shovel…..wait…were they trying to hide something…hmmmmm. Anywhoo, you have the neighbor who never buys their own shat but they borrow your shat. They drive mercedes benz and stays having a party but they can’t buy a gotdamn lawnmower. I am confused by this………my hubs was the nice one because I would have been like look…buy your own stuff. God blesses the child that has their own. This neighbor will borrow your socks if you let them. I hate people who borrow all the time like y’all went half on something and they think they have the right to ask for your things.

The party neighbor – my subdivision is pretty quiet but there is one lady a few doors down who has a get together it seems like every single weekend. It’s normally about 20 or so cars parked all up and down our streets every weekend either on a Friday or a Sunday. Now I don’t know if she has a lot of grandkids or kids or what but I am not a fan of coming out of my house and seeing cars lined up on the street every weekend. Things were so bad one day that they were parked by my house…and I live about 5 houses down. Like really though….what if I was having a get together you mean to tell me my people would have nowhere to park because you took up all the space. The party neighbor also doesn’t know when to shut the party down. It’s 1pm on a Sunday night…..really my kids do have to go to school I don’t want to hear the loud talking and stuff at 1am

The neighbor with the kids – Last night our neighbor from across the street came over to play with my son. He’s 9 and his mom I assume just let’s him roam free. So I let my son go over there and play and next thing I know the two of them are coming in my house. Did my son ask me if this stranger can come in here? Did the boy ask his mom? I am not a fan of kids just showing up in my house without permission and I don’t even know his name. Obviously his mom didn’t mind because he was over here for a good hour before I sent him on back home. Where was the mom? Who knows but for him to stay over here an hr after dusk dark and no one was looking for him…I thought that was strange. I don’t let my kids go nowhere without asking me first. Kids just come and knock on your door to play like I don’t run a tight ship around here. My child has school and a bedtime plus chores that he needs to complete before bed. Boy bye!

The neighbor with the ugly house and run down carsย – This probably only happens in the neighborhoods that don’t have an HOA. I hate HOA but I also love that I don’t have to deal with run down houses. In my old neighborhood I did. I took a drive through there the other day and my gawd it looked so bad over there I was like did I really live over here. It was so unkept and not nice at all. I felt ashamed and I didn’t even live there anymore. My old house….the one we sold….was the worse in the neighborhood too! The grass wasn’t cut, the house needed to be bathed….it was ridiculous. The house next door was filled with cars some looked like it hadn’t been cranked in quite some time.

Theย holiday cheer neighborย – you know the house that doesn’t take their lights down or does the most outrageous things during the holiday? If you don’t know the house you might be that house *side eye* I don’t decorate my outside because hell I can’t decorate my insides but I do know some neighbors like to go all out during the holidays. That’s fine but don’t be tacky with it. If you are going to decorate make it nice!

Here are some tips that you can use to have a great neighborhood

  • Park in your garage …I don’t understand why people don’t park in it…….this cuts out the nosey neighbor right there
  • Don’t open your blinds….that way the borrowing neighbor won’t stop buy to borrow anything….a NO will do the trick too
  • Give your neighbor dirty looks if there are cars parked along the street and is taking up space in front of your house….just stare at them
  • Wave and keep it moving. Don’t chit chat don’t talk about your grass….just throw your hands up and speed off
  • If the neighborhood kids come knocking tell them to go look up the story about hansel and gretel I bet they won’t come back
  • The neighbor with the run down house…..nothing you can really do about this neighbor I suggest you just leave nasty notes notes on their door anonymously
  • The holiday cheer neighbor take them some cookies that spells out ‘your stuff is hideous”

If you use these tips you may find yourself being the best neighbor that you can be. Honestly though a smile and a wave is a good start. Don’t be overly nice but be cordial. I also suggest being a bit nosy…just to make sure that you know what types of cars your neighbors do drive just in case you see something suspicious. How do you deal with neighbors? What kind of neighbor are you?

Love thy neighbor as thyself

  • Reply
    Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle
    September 23, 2016 at 3:11 pm

    I love this! I wish EVERYONE in my neighborhood would read this. We have a good neighborhood, but there’s… just stuff… all over the place.

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    Brandy
    September 23, 2016 at 3:46 pm

    My friend used to have a neighbor who was constantly asking to borrow things. It was okay for the first few weeks but then she had to start saying no.

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    Bren Pace
    September 23, 2016 at 3:49 pm

    LOL Don’t forget about the neighbor with all the obnoxious cats, loud dogs, or bratty kids! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    Pam
    September 23, 2016 at 7:06 pm

    I am the not overly chit chatty neighbor. I smile and wave, maybe say a few words if I’m on a walk and pass them on the street. I saw some of my neighbors at a funeral and talked for a few minutes. I learned that there was tons of stuff happening in our neighborhood that I had no idea about. I’m okay with that.

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    Kelly Hutchinson
    September 24, 2016 at 1:45 am

    Everyone should have the experience of having great neighbors. It never seems to work out that way, though.

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    Theresa
    September 24, 2016 at 2:24 am

    I really hate the neighbor that leaves his junk all out in his driveway. Then again, I am the neighbor that has 10,000 lights on my house at Christmas, so I suppose I don’t have much room to talk lol.

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    Toni | BoulderLocavore.com
    September 24, 2016 at 6:24 am

    Love this post and all your tips! I have a good neighborhood and I try to be good as I can be. But I think I could use some of your tips in here! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thanks for sharing!

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    Marcie W.
    September 24, 2016 at 3:26 pm

    This post made me laugh, as I can easily envision all of these neighbors. We are lucky enough to live in a quiet community with a strict home owners association, so we deal with very little run down homes or loud party people.

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    Jeanine
    September 24, 2016 at 3:52 pm

    Yes, this is great. Our neighbours who moved in not long ago aren’t very nice people. We have such a hard time with them, so we’ve just been doing our own thing. The neighbours on the other side of us aren’t so bad – their teen was an issue for a while until a horrible thing happened in the summer that I witnessed and helped her with now its great, she is super nice and even loves my kids now which is so much better than her bullying my girls.

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    Melissa @ thestatenislandfamily
    September 24, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    this should be a must read for every neighbor! Being cordial should be a no brainer but some neighbors don’t get it! Sharing this post with a few of my closest neighbors!

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    Mixed Reviews
    September 25, 2016 at 2:28 am

    My favorite type of neighbors are the ones that aren’t super friendly, nice but not over friendly and nosy. So far we’ve been lucky about our neighbors.

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    Whitney Jordan
    September 25, 2016 at 12:42 pm

    We only have one neighbor and he’s great! We don’t bother him and he doesn’t bother us but we can still call each other up if we need something.

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    Ann Bacciaglia
    September 25, 2016 at 2:37 pm

    I live in a great neighborhood. We have a comunity pool and the adults get together for cocktail hour at the pool once a week. Our old house was on a street with a few party houses. I know how you feel with all the cars lined up..

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      J
      April 23, 2017 at 7:13 pm

      Yeah, Me as well, I live in between 3 houses that have a party every weekend, cant have any privacy in front because people are parking up and down the street, its a click around here with the 3, my neighbors across from me are older and just moved here, they are quiet and mind their own business, but they cant sit in their back yard because of the “want to be socialites” behind their house, I wish they would of ask me about the hood before the bought their house. We are in a triangle of A holes.

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    Nicole Escat
    September 25, 2016 at 4:07 pm

    Oh, this is a nice read! I also have some problems with my neighbors especially the party neighbors!

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    Rosey
    September 25, 2016 at 8:55 pm

    I’m the neighbor who likes all the kids at my house so I can know where my kids are, lol. I bet MY neighbors who don’t have kids, aren’t overly fond of this one, esp. if we’re in the backyard w/a slip n side or something. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    Amanda Love
    September 26, 2016 at 2:43 am

    I am not very social with my neighbors as well but it’s great to be on good terms with them. All you really need to be is to be sensitive, don’t do something that you won’t like to be done to you. I like your tips, they’re perfect!

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    Brianne
    September 26, 2016 at 5:54 pm

    We live in an apartment building, and I always thought it would be a different type of neighbor as I did when growing up, but i love our neighbors and community in our building. These are great tips for keeping a great relationship with them!

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