We all lie…it’s a fact. It could be a little lie or a big one….it can even be a medium one. You can even tell the truth but exaggerate it a bit. There are many ways that people lie and I am going to name a few below…..
People lie on resumes – Yes….people tell lies on resumes. It could be a little lie like maybe they know how to work Microsoft excel (but they really don’t they just know about it). It could be a medium lie…or exaggerated one…they went to college and got a Bachelors but not at the college they put on the resume. It could be a big lie…maybe they put a job on there that they never had.
People lie about having money – You ever hear of people who complain about their broke all the time. They aren’t really broke….they just don’t want you to ask them for money or they just don’t have any money left after they have paid the bills. It’s not that their broke it’s just that they don’t have money left for their wants. I use to complain all the time about being broke but in reality I am not really broke…my bills are paid and food is on the table. People also lie for you to make them rich. There was a guy here in Atlanta who stood on the interstate in a populated area and asked for money. The sign said I am hungry please help….he collected over $600 in one day and he made a career out of it. He wasn’t homeless he just couldn’t find a job and thought that lying about it would help. He ended up going to jail but he made a great living out of his lie.
People lie about relationships – I did this yesterday…since the hubs passed I don’t want to be bothered. A guy stopped me and asked me for my number I politely told him I was in a relationship. Technically I am not but I don’t want to be bothered and no I am not giving out my number so I lied. Men and women lie all the time about relationships. Are they in one or are they not? Do you have a girl, do you have a man, are you married, etc. I hate men who are married and tell other women that their not….that’s the most hurtful lie that you can tell.
People lie about their life – Do you live a life that’s a lie? People put on that their well to do, but when you break down the layers they aren’t as fancy as you may think. I remember there was a lady a few years ago who drove nice cars, had a big ole house…come to find out she was broke and living off of credit cards and robbing peter to pay paul. Her car note was behind and she hadn’t paid her mortgage in 4 months but from the outside looking in you would have thought she had everything together.
I think lying comes from a few things. For me I lie because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I always think that the lie softens the blow a little. It won’t come off as harsh or me being mean. I don’t like hurting people’s feelings and I don’t do it often but it happens. Someone showed me something the other day that they worked hard on and I saw it and I was like OMG this mess looks like a mess but I didn’t have the heart to tell them so instead I said oh it looks nice. I wanted to tell her the truth but I didn’t want to discourage her or make her feel some type of way. Lying can also come from insecurity. Sometimes the lies make you appear better than others. The lies make you feel good because you can live in a fantasy world that you can control and be in charge of. Lies can hurt and people are worth the truth…..even if you have to hurt their feelings. I think it’s all in the way that you say it (which is what I am learning how to do).
What lies have you told lately? Tell me about a lie that you’ve told in your life and how did you feel afterwards? Did you tell the person the truth later on or did you just stick with the lie?