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Lessons I have learned from Joanna Gaines

July 5, 2017

I am not a huge HGTV watcher until some of my blogger buddies got me hooked on watching Fixer Upper. I am in no way shape or form a person that decorates anything…..I had to get help when I decorated my own house. I love Magnolia the flower even before I knew that Magnolia was a thing with Chip and Joanna Gaines. You see the actual flower drew me to them and then I got hooked on that shiplap thingy and now I watch them all the time. I recently bought their new book The Magnolia Story based on a suggestion by a friend. At first I thought it would be all about home stuff until she said nope it’s a great read to help you in any area of your life. It’s an uplifting book that will make you think and question how patience is the key to success. I was hooked by those words and thought okay…I gotta read this book immediately. So I did….here are some lessons I learned from the book…..

Second chances lead to great things – I don’t get many second chances in life so when I do I take full advantage of it. I have messed up a lot of things in my life and I don’t know if I even deserve a second chance sometimes. Do you ever feel like maybe you messed up so bad the first time that a second chance isn’t something you want to do or you aren’t ready for it. What if you mess up the second time? What if you didn’t really learn the lessons?

Sometimes when something is meant to be, it’s meant to be – Let me tell you something…if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be. Nothing you do and nothing anyone else can do can take whats for you from you. I use to worry about trying to be the best at what I do but I am learning that if it’s meant for me it will be. I don’t have to scheme to get it, I don’t have to pull anyone else down, I don’t have to outshine anyone. If it’s meant to be it will be no matter what. Once you learn this…once you accept this….you won’t have to worry about anything. Now the only thing I have to work on is that patience of mine lol

Even locked doors can be unlocked in time – I find myself at locked doors all the time….sometimes it’s just not the right time to unlock the door….That doesn’t mean that you can’t unlock it or that it won’t pop open when it’s time. I remember I wanted to be a photographer a while ago and I didn’t have the right training or knowledge so I tried to be this big time photographer without even knowing how to shoot on manual. It wasn’t my time so I waited and while I waited I learned and I took classes and I read and then…my door unlocked to where I am booking up fast. If it’s not your door trust me it won’t open!

I’ll provide your needs, but you have to take care of your wants – I did this with my kids when I read this passage in the book…..I told my kids if they wanted something they have to work for it. That means you clean my car, the garage, fold extra baskets of clothes, vacuum, whatever. If you want something work for it. I will provide you with the basics clothes, food, shelter but if you want a certain shoe or a video game or anything extra….I need to see you working for it. I don’t want to be that parent that just gives my kids things….they need to know the value of hard work.

What am I going for in life? – For me I am going for a chance to help others with my story. Maybe touch others in their lives….I have lost so many people in my life that I know there are others who find it hard to go on. They find it hard to talk to people who don’t know of such lost. I want to touch lives with laughter and real raw gritty truth. I want to also capture moments for people. When my mom died one of the things that kept me going was all of the pictures she took…which set me into motion to become a photographer to capture those moments. Even though she has passed and I have changed from the photos I can still go back and laugh and cry and remember those times. Those photos bring me a certain peace

It was such a blessing to find myself thriving in the middle of the pain – I know pain like none other….I could be down right now but I find myself thriving and growing and learning so much in my pain that I wouldn’t have it any other way. Isn’t it funny how much you learn when pain is involved.

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What is my intention behind these things? My intention is simple….to make people laugh and realize the truth when it comes to things. Some of us need to laugh…it helps, trust me I know. I also want to make sure that my voice speaks about me. My story gets out there. I want my story to help someone. I knew of a young lady who just lost her mother and hearing my story helped her to not go into a deep depression. That’s what I want to do with my story!

Go and find what it is that inspires you, go and find what it is that you love, and go do that until it hurts – Life is hard! Find what inspires you and do it. Don’t work for anyone unless you work for what you want. So many of us have an inspiration to do things…great things but we don’t because we are afraid or we feel that we aren’t good enough. Go and do what you need to do to make you happy and do it until it hurts

Those are just a few lessons that I learned from this book. These stood out to me and resonated with me in a huge way. If you get a chance to read this …do it. It’s not about home decor it’s about uplifting you into being a better person and to wait for your time to shine. What book have you read lately? What book should I read next?

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    robin rue
    July 5, 2017 at 2:51 pm

    You have learned some great lessons. Second chances definitely can lead to something good and that I why I almost always give them.

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    July 5, 2017 at 2:53 pm

    I think that everyone should get a second chances! I think hind site is 20/20 so a second chance would be the best way to do something since you already have the hind site!

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    Alli Smith
    July 5, 2017 at 2:55 pm

    I haven’t read the book yet but I do watch Fixer Upper. It’s addicting! I’m in the middle of reading Emma in the Night and just finished The Breakdown. They are both psychological thrillers and I couldn’t put either book down. My next book will be a light read. I need a thriller break.

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    Christy Maurer
    July 5, 2017 at 3:09 pm

    I have heard such great things about this book. It sounds like it is so inspiring.

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    July 5, 2017 at 3:30 pm

    I haven’t read the book yet but my sister said I could borrow it. This is a great summary and it shows just how easy it is to apply these lessons to our own lives.

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    July 5, 2017 at 6:00 pm

    Adding her book to my reading list. Great post Kita, you are inspiring.

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    July 5, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    These are all great! I love the “I’ll provide what you need, you provide what you want” mentality. Our kids have chores and earn allowance to buy the “extras” they want. Not that they never get little treats from us, but we want them to grow up understanding how to work towards goals and for things they desire.

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    Pam Wattenbarger
    July 5, 2017 at 7:23 pm

    You know, everyone loves Joanna Gaines but I have actually never watched Fixer Upper. Guess I need to.

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    Amber Myers
    July 5, 2017 at 7:56 pm

    I’m not exactly sure who Joanna Gaines is, but I’m glad you learned a lot from her. I’ll have to Google so I learn who she is!

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    Angelic Sinova
    July 5, 2017 at 8:06 pm

    I really love Fix Upper and Joanna Gaines (I’m a sucker for HGTV, I think a lot of it has to do with the fact my sister is an interior designer!). I agree that second chances do often lead to bigger and better things.

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    Katie Kinsley
    July 5, 2017 at 8:29 pm

    I love watching the their tv show and I find Joanna a very model human being. I couldn’t for the life of me find any please in her Magnolia Journal magazine!

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    Stephanie Pass
    July 6, 2017 at 6:36 am

    I don’t ever watch HGTV, but I do see Joanna Gaines everywhere. She sounds like she has some great life lessons we can all use. I love the one about the intention behind things.

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    My Teen Guide
    July 6, 2017 at 7:49 am

    Another book to add to my reading list this July. I have to get a copy of The Magnolia Story. I will check online and in our local bookstore too. I haven’t seen Fixer Upper. I think I should!

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    Eileen |
    July 6, 2017 at 12:35 pm

    These are some great life lessons. I love the one about doors that become unlocked, sometimes things change.

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    Mimi Green
    July 6, 2017 at 2:47 pm

    I swear by when its meant to be, it is meant to be. Sometimes it is the only thing that keeps me going. It lets me know that sometimes I want something so bad, but it isn’t my time.

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    Betty Boiron
    July 6, 2017 at 3:08 pm

    This is a very hopeful list in general, with everything making you think positively.

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    Chubskulit Rose
    July 6, 2017 at 4:19 pm

    We love watching Fixer Upper too, not only that the couple are very entertaining, they definitely do something that is very practical and inexpensive.

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    Tatanish Worthey
    July 6, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    Love Joanna Gaines. She is just so…real to me.

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    NYC Single Mom
    July 7, 2017 at 1:53 am

    I have no idea who Joanna Gaines is or seen Fixer Upper. That said, it looks like you have drawn a lot of inspiration from her and that is the important thing. i am all for a positive outlook and growth in life!!

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    Rebecca Swenor
    July 7, 2017 at 3:35 pm

    This sounds like a great inspirational book for everyone to read. I believe without failure we can not have success. Second chances are what leads to better things. Thanks for sharing this book and your thoughts.

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