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It’s Moving Day!

April 14, 2016

Before my husband passed away we started a savings account to try to get our finances in order so that we could purchase a home. With him full time (finally after 9 years of being part time) and me having my own business. We thought whew it’s time to own a home and finally have a place to stay without the rent going up every year. Our rent was over 1,000 and we figured before we hit 1200+ we need to look into buying a home. We had a real estate agent and we were looking for homes. We worked our buts off paying off bills for a year and finally in December we were ready to go to the bank to see what we were looking like. Good news we were good to go! They gave us our budget for a home and we looked. We wanted to take our time and look and thought by May we would have a home and be able to move by the summer.

God had other plans. My hubs passed away in January of this year. Our dream of having a home died with him but……………not quite. I had forgotten that we were in the process of looking for a home since his death so around the end of Feb I said to myself I wonder if I could continue on without him and so I went to the bank and they worked a miracle. I was able to continue the process of purchasing a home. I picked a home in one of the first subdivisions that were high on our list and the day I went to view the home don’t you know that I saw a mail truck in the subdivision (he was a postal worker) To me that was a sign to get the home.

Why am I moving right after the hubs has died you asked?

  • The rental home would be going up to 1100 by the end of the year…hell to the no if I can get a mortgage for cheaper I will roll with that
  • The rental had to much of him in it. We were in our rental for 3 years…it reeks of him every room I turn in I see him which is not bad but it can be heavy sometimes
  • The kids and I needed a new start. It’s time to make new memories and venture out as a family of 3 now, that means fresh starts

This will be the first home that I have ever owned so I am a bit nervous. To be honest….

I am scared of being a home alone. I hear noises………….all the damn time. We are moving from a one story home to a two story home and I was in the new home the other day trying to rest and I swore I heard someone on the steps….yep I am officially losing it.

I can’t do yardwork. So let me reword that….I can lawn a yard. My mom had me mowing the lawn at 8 years old. I had to do a walking lawnmower on a half acre property…walking ….at …..8. Let that sink in. I can do yard work but I have to pay someone to do it. The builder told me to make sure I water the grass…………come again. Let me find people to do that while I am at it I wonder if they can plant pretty flowers too cause I kill the ones I buy.

Maintenance Man. I live in Atlanta…well in the country part. Do you know I have called around to about 7 handyman places who either don’t service my area or they don’t return calls. I have a list of about 30 items and no one wants to take my money. I have gotten recommendations from friends but that too has gotten me no results. I call no one answers, I get in touch with someone and they forget that they had me on their schedule. I have been trying for two weeks to find someone…no luck yet. I am about to go to Home Depot and pick up someone preferably someone cute and he can take his shirt off…….

What if I can’t pay. This has crossed my mind. I make good money and we had a little in savings but lawd hammercy a sister is scared. One thing the hubs taught me throughout our 10 years of marriage is that you have to have faith…even when things look bad….have faith that everything will turn out exactly how it’s supposed too.

Good news is that my mortgage is much cheaper than what we were paying in rent even with insurance, HOA fees, and property taxes. I love rental properties because they fix everything but home ownership is important to build wealth.

Today is moving day although I have had the keys since the end of March. I took my time moving in as I wanted a few things done before I officially moved everything. Next week I am going to talk about things you should get done before you move into a new home. I am excited about my first home and my fresh start. I can’t wait to share some of the things I have been doing including checking out a new Vacuum from Dyson.

moving day

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    Brenda Pace
    April 14, 2016 at 9:13 am

    I’m so excited for you and the kids! I wish your hubs was there to share in it but for some reason God thought otherwise.

    I look forward to seeing pictures and hearing your “move in” stories!

    Oh just remember, don’t be afraid. Your hubs is still with you and watching over the family.


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    April 14, 2016 at 12:41 pm

    One of the biggest lessons from your husband will be your blessing: “Have faith!” You’re covered and you’ve got this.

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    Kenya G. Johnson
    April 14, 2016 at 1:55 pm

    Congratulations girl! At least with a mortgage you donโ€™t feel like you are giving your money away. I meant to tell you in your other post to go to Home Depot or Lowes. Thereโ€™s usually a board in there where people can place their business cards. Also ask your neighbors.

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    April 15, 2016 at 2:35 am

    Congratulations on your new home! Guess what’s happening to me? My landlord called me yesterday saying he have to sell the house we’re in. Now I have to find a new place. Sucks! I’m not for sure if I want to buy a home yet, so I’m looking to rent again.

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    Erica Alcox
    April 15, 2016 at 2:50 am

    Fresh starts are my favortie thing in the world. This fresh start will be so therapeutic for all of you. I just know it!
    Oh and lemme know when dinner is…you know it aint official without some red rice! Lol

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    April 15, 2016 at 3:29 am

    Congratulations on all things new! HE makes all things new. ๐Ÿ˜€ Be blessed, Kita!

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    Camesha | Mama Motivator
    April 15, 2016 at 3:51 am

    I’m equally proud of you and happy for you. I understand why you decided to go forward with the move. Makes sense. I do believe your husband is watching over you. Have faith, dear. You got this!

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    April 15, 2016 at 5:39 am

    I would have made the same decision under those circumstances. Best of luck!! Sounds like the kids may be put to work soon. Lol

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    Alli Smith
    April 15, 2016 at 9:51 am

    I remember when your husband passed. I prayed for you and your family with all my heart. I can totally understand today being a bittersweet day, so I’m sending up prayers for you today, too! I admire you so much for being so strong.

    I can totally relate to being home alone. I swear when I step into the shower, I hear 30 people breaking in. ๐Ÿ™‚ I believe it’s because I watched way too much Shemar Moore on Criminal Minds. Speaking of, it’s not nearly as good since he left.

    Congrats on your new home! Call me and I’ll come over from SC and help with that yard work. ๐Ÿ™‚

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      April 16, 2016 at 2:31 am

      Thank you so much! I watch a lot of crime movies too I need to give that up asap lol. I am going home to Charleston in a few weeks I can’t wait to hit the beach!

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    Jessica Harlow
    April 15, 2016 at 12:00 pm

    I think this is wonderful and that you are very strong to do this on your own. Moving forward and taking on the task of being a homeowner can be overwhelming especially when you’ve had such a rough start to the year. I’m so sorry for your loss, but it sounds like your husband’s last gift to you and your children was love and memories, strength and fortitude. You’ll do this!

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    April 15, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    It’s always a hard decision about whether to move or not. I would not like to live in a two story home alone. I would always be hearing burglars!

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    Liz Mays
    April 15, 2016 at 7:08 pm

    You definitely have good reasons to make the move! I hope moving day isn’t too stressful!

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    Mimi Green
    April 15, 2016 at 7:10 pm

    Oh Kita I am so happy for you and the kids. Home ownership is tough sometimes but it is so rewarding. Congrats to you and the kids making new memories. I’m sure hubby is proud of you all.

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    April 16, 2016 at 2:27 am

    I am so proud of you for your courage! You are a strong woman with a Will to move on in life, while holding on to the good memories of your hubby. I bet he’s with you as your angel, smiling upon you and your kids! I love that you and your kids have a fresh start to a new future, in a new home… And your hubby’s right ‘have faith’ everything works itself out, just keep working hard in life, stay positive, and live in the moment while embracing the laughable, happy memories in life.
    enjoy your new home : )

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    Chris Hoov
    April 16, 2016 at 5:00 am

    Wow! Congratulations to you! It’s so nice to share your experience. Thanks!

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    April 16, 2016 at 5:24 am

    A new fresh start is sometimes the best idea. I wish you guys all the best in you new home.

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    April 16, 2016 at 5:25 am

    I am sure this was not an easy decision for you but it sounds like the right one. You guys will do well in your new home!

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    Franc Ramon
    April 16, 2016 at 2:39 pm

    I guess the new house would also mean new beginnings for all of you. It’s a good investment especially with rental prices going up.

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    Bonnie @wemake7
    April 17, 2016 at 1:04 am

    I’ve very sorry to hear of your husbands passing. I’m excited for you getting your own place.

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    April 17, 2016 at 2:38 am

    Kita, I hope and pray that your move is a smooth one. May HE give you peace and faith that passes all understanding. God bless you all and your new home!

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      April 17, 2016 at 3:33 am

      Thank you so much!

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    Susan Quackenbush
    April 17, 2016 at 9:52 pm

    There are very few things I dislike more than having to move! My husband was in the military for 25 years so now that he’s retired, we have every intention of settling down! ๐Ÿ™‚ This is a great article about moving though, thank you for sharing! ๐Ÿ™‚

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    April 18, 2016 at 12:36 am

    I am so sorry about your loss. You are so brave for taking steps that give you a sense of calm and comfort. Best of luck in your new place and during this time of transition.

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    Kristy @ Mommy Hates Cooking
    April 18, 2016 at 12:01 pm

    How exciting and scary at the same time! Hoping you have a smooth transition and settle into your new home — with your new start!

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    Benita Johnson
    May 24, 2016 at 8:18 am

    Wow! Our lives mirror in so many ways. After being married nearly 13 years and two kids later we were finally in the position to purchase our 1st home, a newly built home. We were in 2 months when he passed away. It was sad, strange and confusing being here without him. I talked to my daughters and we decided to stay especially because he was so happy and proud. Eight years later we’re still here and have gradually created an atmosphere conducive to you we have become!

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