It’s almost that time where parents will be dropping their kids off to college. I remember my transition….I myself was nervous. My mom…I couldn’t tell how she was she never let on if she was happy or sad. I didn’t have a dad around and the funny thing is when I first got to college…it was the first time I had seen so many fathers in the picture. My friends and I didn’t have dads in our lives so I was not use to seeing both parents in such a high rate of attendance (that sounded really professional right there lol) My mom dropped me off with my uncle. I had visited the dorm and met my roommate a month before so I knew how she looked and how our rooms looked but still I was so nervous. The day came where I was dropped off and I had second thoughts …am I in the right place, maybe I’m to far from home and should have went to a local college, do I even need college this is more work, oooohhh look at that cute boy lol. Now with technology so present it’s easy for parents to keep up with their kids and talk to them via facetime. My mom didn’t have a cell phone only a house phone so it was hard to reach her at times. I caught rides with friends from my hometown and tried to go home at least once a month…it helped that I only lived 4 hours from home and it also helped that I knew a few people where I went.
One of the girls I use to babysit is now off to college (am I telling my age?) and her mom is a ball of emotions right now. I lowkey think I will cry also when my kids leave the nest. I am going to try to keep it together but I don’t know if I will. In the meantime I had some advice for the girl I use to babysit……
Bring things from home that will make you happy. I know I love my hometown of Charleston,SC so I brought a sweetgrass basket with me. Sweetgrass baskets is a part of our history in Charleston so I knew that having it with me in my dorm room would help me transition better. Candles or anything that smells of home…bring it. It will help you out a lot
Meet people before you come to college. There is this thing that y’all have today that wasn’t big back when I was in high school…it’s called social media. Find a hashtag and start connecting with people who are going to your college. Most colleges have hashtags now and you can find out whose going to college or whose doing what based off that hashtag. You can even find some Alumni’s with that hashtag. Engage with them and ask questions and be a present force on your social media. It makes a big difference if you know people before you get there. You also can tell a little about their personality by what they post online. I know if I see someone coming to college who loves to shop and I don’t like to shop then maybe that’s not the person I wanna hang with but if you love to eat and the person you see loves eating out strike up a conversation
Eat healthy…..I gained what they call the freshman 15…I did. We had a buffet style type of eatery at my college and when I tell you I pigged out….I did. All the walking around on campus helped me but still I gained some weight. When I arrived to college I was 98lbs after my first few months I was 120….make sure you work out and eat healthy and drink lots of water. Have insurance because I remember getting sick and I didn’t have insurance and the Dr. at the school charged me a large amount of money for a simple cold. Think about your health before you go off to college and make sure you are aware of the best hospitals in your town and the best Doctors.
Study habits will be null and void the first few months because you are in a new place. I know I partied hard my first few months and ended up failing two classes my mom had a stern talk with me and I got myself back on track but when you go off to college and experience something new…it’s hard to stay focused. Make sure you surround yourself with focused driven people. Don’t hang with the folks that always want to party and always want to go out. Those are the people that will most likely end up failing and dropping out. Hang with those that are studying and going somewhere. That is the biggest advice I can give. I ended up flunking out of college after my sophomore year and took a year off. I took that year off to work and take some classes at a local college. After a year my mom asked me to go back for her…although I didn’t want to I decided to do it and I graduated in 2005 from Clark Atlanta University here in Atlanta, GA. I have a degree that I worked hard for and that didn’t come easy. Going to college is a huge step in your life and while you will want to go wild and have fun, remember to learn balance. You still have a life to live!
What advice would you give an upcoming college student? Whats one thing that sticks out the most about your college experience?