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How finding Dory can help us find ourselves

July 21, 2016

I have been waiting for Finding Dory for some time. If you have seen Finding Nemo you have been waiting for Finding Dory….I wanted to see it more than the kids. What I loved most about the movie is that it teaches us that everyone is different and we are all trying to find ourselves. I know people in their 40’s who still can’t find them or what their passion is. So here are some lessons that I learned in Finding Dory that I can apply to myself.

We are all different – I know that I cuss a lot and I use to be ashamed…until I accepted that it was me. I know that I don’t wear makeup at all and I don’t wear heels. I am different and unique and that is okay. Being different means that they talk about you more. If people aren’t talking about you then you are just blending in with the crowd. Don’t blend in!

Talk to people – What I loved in the movie is that Dory talked to everyone no matter what. Do you know that so much can be solved if we just talk to people instead of assuming things about them. Don’t be afraid of how big someone is or the color of their skin. Talk to people it doesn’t matter if you don’t agree with them you don’t have to argue just state your opinion and respect theirs. You never know what connections you can make if you talk to people.

No one is perfect – Yes she has a disability but she still found a way through that. I don’t know about you but only God is perfect. We all have something that is wrong with us. Some people can see on the outside and for some of us it’s things on the inside. Don’t dwell on your weakness it’s a waste of time. Instead dwell on what you are good at and excel at that. Make your weakness something that you put into the back of your mind and put your strengths to the forefront. Dory told everyone about her weakness but she never let it stop her from finding her parents…..Never. So many of us use our weakness as an excuse to not do what we need to do in order to succeed.

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Real Friends matter – I don’t have any family since most of my family has died. So I have to rely on friends. During the 4th of July weekend my son asked me why we don’t have any family and why it’s just my friends who come over for holidays. I had to explain to him that my friends are my family. Make sure you have real friends who lift you up. Sure we gossip but that’s only 5% of our conversation the rest of our convo is used to make sure we are getting to the money or how can we lift each other up. What do you need type of questions. You can’t run a business alone and you can’t raise kids alone you need someone. If you don’t have family then make your friends your family. You can tell a lot about a person by the crowd they keep.

Follow your heart – What the mind forgets the heart remembers. Dory’s heart lead her to her family. People always say go with your gut but sometimes I say go with your heart….it may break, it may lead you to the wrong thing but there is a lesson that you will learn when you follow your heart. If you haven’t had your heart broken into pieces you haven’t lived. Live and allow your heart to be broken even if it’s just for a little while. Sometimes God breaks us so that we can find who we are.

Believe in yourself – Dory had a disability that should have made it near impossible for her to find her family but she believed in the number one thing that found her parents……HERSELF. If we don’t believe in ourselves then we can’t expect others to believe in us. You are your number one hero, you are the only person who should be competing with you, you are the only person who has to walk in your shoes.

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If you have faith and believe you can do anything. Trust me….I was told that I can’t take photos and that I shouldn’t classify myself as a photographer because my photos suck….because I believe in me and I have faith that I can and will get better what the person said fell on deaf ears.

Find a way or make one – We can come to dead end sometimes and think that their isn’t another way out of situations but sometimes if we step back and view it from another angle we can find a way. My alma mater (Clark Atlanta University) had a motto that I loved find a way or make one. If you can’t find a way…create your own way. A dead end isn’t always a dead end sometimes we have to take a rake or some type of tool and create a new pathway. Make a path if yours seem to come to an end.

You can’t control everything – In the end of the movie Dory wanted to go out on her own and Marlin didn’t trust that she could do it so he followed her to make sure. Sometimes we want to control the outcome of things when we need to let it take it’s course. I learned this lesson right before the hubs died. We were going through something and I wanted to control the outcome. I was trying to run things when all I had to do was let things run it’s course and they turned out better than expected in the end. Learn to let things go and trust the end results. Sometimes you can get in the way of your blessings if you continue to insert your beliefs and control.

The movie had so many lessons in it but the number one lesson that I got overall is to trust who you are. Have you seen Finding Dory? What did you learn from the movie?

How finding Dory can help us find ourselves

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    July 22, 2016 at 1:10 am

    I love how she is so forgetful yet so essential! This was a great movie.

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    Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle
    July 22, 2016 at 3:38 pm

    This was an EXCELLENT post! I’ve always loved Dory, and I loved Finding Dory. Pretty much everything you listed above is why I’ve loved her and her movie so much.

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    Lisa Joy Thompson
    July 22, 2016 at 3:48 pm

    I loved Finding Dory and I think the lessons you shared are such great lessons…especially believe in yourself and find a way or make one! Those 2 lessons alone could change your entire life!

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    Lindsey Paris
    July 22, 2016 at 4:30 pm

    And seeing the good in others. That’s my favorite part. No matter who Dory meets, she never sees a flaw in another being.

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    Kayla @ TheEclecticElement
    July 22, 2016 at 7:14 pm

    You know once the first trailer for Finding Dory came out that it was not only going to be a great movie but it was going to be one with many different life lessons, too! Plus this movie is fantastic for ALL ages so it’s just a win-win all around.

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    Marcie W.
    July 23, 2016 at 12:19 am

    We still have yet to see Finding Dory, but definitely plan to watch it soon. I always appreciate a movie with a positive message and underlying life lessons.

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    Dawn McAlexander
    July 23, 2016 at 12:36 am

    I am hoping to see this film this week. I loved Finding Nemo, and I suspect Finding Dory will be just as good. I hope to see the similarities to ourselves that you pointed out.

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    Toni | BoulderLocavore.com
    July 23, 2016 at 3:56 am

    These are all true! I’ve seen this movie and I really learned a lot. One thing I loved is that real friends really matter. They are the ones ready to help you whenever you need help. I also liked what you said, “You can’t control everything.” We just have to trust ourselves and the people around us and expect for great results!

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    July 23, 2016 at 4:20 am

    This was such a great movie! I do love how she talks to everyone. She seems to make a lot of fabulous friends just by opening herself up to meeting new people and they seem to respond in a positive way. It’s definitely a great lesson for us all!

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    July 23, 2016 at 11:50 am

    Love this! It’s so true. I have yet to see Finding Dory but I’ve seen enough, and read enough about it to know that its wonderful and great it will be!

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    July 23, 2016 at 12:49 pm

    This was very heart warming and very accurate. I haven’t seen finding Dory yet but she was always my favorite character from finding Nemo.

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    Jocelyn @ Hip Mama's Place
    July 23, 2016 at 1:20 pm

    I love all these life lessons that Finding Dory movie brings. I have not seen the movie yet, but it’s on my list of movies to watch this summer.

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    Nikki Wayne
    July 24, 2016 at 4:55 am

    Find a way or make one! That is the greatest lesson that I’ve ever learn from it.

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    July 24, 2016 at 11:16 am

    I haven’t seen it yet. I’d like to though, everyone says it’s really good. And yep, it’s good to have solid friends. No doubt about it.

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    July 24, 2016 at 6:10 pm

    We loved this movie!! It’s so true you have to be true to who you are!

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    aziel morte
    July 26, 2016 at 1:30 pm

    Like finding dory movie I need to find myself I’m in the wrong way I think.

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