Today is the 10 year anniversary of my moms death. I can’t believe she has been gone that long. As I am getting older it doesn’t bother me as much because she lives within me. I am my mother in a lot of the things I do. Christmas was one of her favorite holidays. We never had a real tree and my mom had the same fake tree from the time I was born up until I was 18 years old and left the house. After I left the house she got one of those corner Christmas trees. I use to say mom….really….a corner tree but I guess she was trying something new. There are some things that will always stay with me no matter how I old I get. Here are a few of my favorite holiday memories that I had with my mom.
Once I found out there was no Santa (at the age of 8 when I walked downstairs for water and saw her wrapping presents) I realized that my mom shopped early. How early? Well, she was done with her shopping by October. She would start picking up things throughout the year and would hide them in her attic until Christmas. I never went into the attic because I was scurred. My mom would be sitting back with her feet up while others were scrambling to get gifts. If she saw something in February then she would put it aside for me early. I thought that was smart! I still haven’t incorporated that into my shopping habits because as of today….I have only bought each child one item.
Have a theme for your tree
Now I have seen it all. The crayon tree, the candy cane tree, the trolls tree, the winter wonderland tree, the blue tree, you name it I have seen it. My mom had a theme for her tree every year. Some of her themes were
The Seashell tree
The Angel Tree
The Red Ribbon Tree
The Teddy Bear tree (my favorite one)
The Bird tree
Where she came up with these themes I don’t know but she had all the ornaments to match the tree even the top of the tree. She would make the skirt herself to match each theme. I looked forward to the themes every year!
We eat early….no later than 2pm
Christmas morning my mom would make a small breakfast but the highlight of the day was dinner and we ate dinner promptly at 2 every holiday. My mom didn’t play that eating late in the evening. The evenings were for movies, eating desserts, or visiting others. We ate early and we were done by the time others were just sitting down to eat. I thought 2 was a bit early but now I see why my mom did that. I try to eat dinner early myself on holidays.
Buying others gifts
My mom had 3 best friends and each Christmas they gave each other gifts like they were children. I use to be a bit jealous sometimes because she sometimes got way more things than I did and I was the child. I guess that was the thing to do. My mom had great friends and they always gave nice things for the holidays. Things my mom loved. She was generous and creative when it came to her friends. Baskets done by her, lamps that she handcrafted herself with items in them, pillows that she made with love. Whatever she did, she did over the top. Buying others presents to brighten up their day was what my mom loved the most!
Dressing in matching outfits
Every Mothers Day and Christmas my mom had us dressing alike. The entire family not just her and I but my grandma and my Aunt had to join in on the fun. Sweaters and pants had to match every holiday. I have kind of started this tradition by doing the matching sleeping clothes on Thanksgiving eve and Christmas Eve.
Always having her camera out
My mom was the queen of the camera. I guess some of it rubbed off on me (side eye). She took pictures every holiday. I have them but I wanted to hold them close to me and not share them with the world just yet. I always look back through at some of her photos though to remember the good times. I get to laugh, cry, and be grateful that I had all of my childhood with my mom.
As Christmas gets near the memories I have will always far outlive pictures and things. This holiday season if you aren’t with the people you love try to love the people you are with. What memories do you have with your mother? Share them below.