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January 17, 2018

My moms birthday was yesterday so I decided to write her a letter. I hope she’s reading it in heaven.

Dear Mama,

How are you up there in your mansion beyond the skies? I hope you are doing good. I see you got your bestie back. I was hurt that I lost Auntie Emma she was your best friend, my aunt who wasn’t blood, and she was my mom after you died. Danaija and I talked after the funeral and said that we know you all are shopping at all the fabric stores together sewing us something to give to us when we see you again. I don’t have a mom figure now and that saddens me the most. I have my friends but it’s nothing like having an older person to talk to. I know you see how I am doing down here on earth. While on the outside I’m good on the inside I sure do miss you. I miss our talks every day. I went to an event the other day and they were talking about mother and daughter relationships and as I listened I thought to myself these children were deprived of having a good mom. I was lucky. Some of them were complaining about their moms taking up their time or their mom not being the mom they wanted them to be. I was listening and thought hmmmm I had a great mom. Although you didn’t show love in the way I wanted you showed love in your actions by always being there when I needed you and always putting my needs in front of yours.

The kids are doing good. That boy you so loved is a sweetheart he just can’t get his grades together. I am on him though because I know you were on me about education and telling me that it was the key to everything. My daughter is your clone she loves crafts and dressing up. Loudee calls her little Sonja and she is that. It’s hard being a single parent I didn’t know you had it this hard. With Decarlo gone I sometimes feel drained from being a mom all day. I am learning to take some time to myself but it’s tough with no help. I am making it through and I am thankful for your teachings.

Every time I lose someone these days I gain another angel. I have grandma, you, the hubs and now Emma. I am sure that life will be filled with challenges but with God and my angels I should be okay until I get about 90 years old. Life on earth isn’t fair…I remember you telling me that often. I am sure seeing that more and more but I am also seeing that life is what I make of it. Even though it’s not fair I still have to find the peace in every life decision that I go through.

I miss you and I wish you were here so I hope that you take this Birthday to have fun I mean after all it’s your 70th birthday. Have some cake, enjoy Emma, tell Decarlo I said hi and continue looking out for us down here. We love you and Happy Birthday!

Your smart mouth daughter,


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    Sheena Steward
    January 17, 2018 at 3:05 pm

    Such an awesome letter to you mother. I know she’s smiling down on you and cheering you on. This was a great way to celebrate and honor her on her birthday.

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    Melissa Chapman
    January 17, 2018 at 3:12 pm

    It is nice to read about the closeness and love you have for your mom. It is so special you would honor her memory this way.

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    Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle
    January 17, 2018 at 3:37 pm

    I love this so much! Our moms play such a huge roll in our lives. I think love letters to our moms like this are just beautiful.

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    Kelly Hutchinson
    January 17, 2018 at 4:13 pm

    This is truly, so beautiful and I can’t help but feel extremely emotional. Just from this post alone you can tell you had a very special connection with her.

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    January 17, 2018 at 4:53 pm

    This really touched my heart. I can feel the love of this letter to your mom, and it is just so heartwarming.

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    January 17, 2018 at 8:58 pm

    Beautiful letter to your mom. I am sure she’s reading it with tears in her eyes and a smile on her face. I’m sorry you are missing your mama ♥

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    January 17, 2018 at 9:07 pm

    I’m terribly sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. You must miss her dearly. Remember though that you always have your memories.

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    January 18, 2018 at 12:47 am

    This is such a sweet letter to your mom. I need to write my mom a letter like this… she passed away back in 2002.

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    serena hale
    January 18, 2018 at 1:05 am

    I am so sorry for your loss and appreciate you sharing with us. The letter was beautiful and I am sure she is reading it smiling.

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    January 18, 2018 at 1:27 am

    What a beautiful written letter. I know your mom def shining down on you and so proud!

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    January 18, 2018 at 4:01 am

    Such a sweet way to stay connected with your mother. I know it must be difficult but it’s so wonderful you can look happily on your memories with her.

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    Sara Welch
    January 18, 2018 at 5:05 am

    This was just so beautiful. I know how hard it can be to miss someone like her.

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    Our Family World
    January 18, 2018 at 6:45 am

    Awww.. your mom must have been a great woman. You are indeed lucky to have her. I do write letter like that too, only it is for my dad who passed away almost 26 years ago. I still miss him and I he is always in my thoughts. It is so hard to lose a parent or a loved one. The only consolation is that they are no longer in pain and that we have our own angels watching over us from above.

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    Jay Colby
    January 18, 2018 at 2:30 pm

    This was such a beautiful well-written letter! Sorry for the loss of your mama.

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    Crystal Nicole
    January 18, 2018 at 3:27 pm

    Such a beautiful letter. Thank you for sharing. I’m certain she sees you, and she’s rooting for you and the kids!

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    AnnMarie John
    January 18, 2018 at 4:18 pm

    This made me miss my mom terribly! I still yearn for her and our conversations. I think it’s really something that I will never move on from. I loved reading this post, so heartfelt and moving!

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    Courtney CJ
    January 19, 2018 at 4:44 am

    Sending you love and light. I am realizing that I need to be intentional about spending more time at home because my mother and godfather are seniors and I have to love on them while I can. Thank you for the reminder.

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    Sapphire Kharyzma
    January 19, 2018 at 5:29 am

    What a beautiful letter to your mom! I know she is smiling in her mansion, at how amazingly talented her daughter is (hugs)

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    January 19, 2018 at 1:35 pm

    This is such a sweet letter to your mom! I’m sure she’s smiling down on you and proud of you! 🙂

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    January 19, 2018 at 2:29 pm

    Kita, this is such a sweet letter to your mom. I’m sorry for your recent loss and pray you find comfort sis.

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    January 19, 2018 at 3:17 pm

    And now I’m crying. You’re such a pleasure to read, even when you’re being open like this. I know you and your mom had great times when she was earthside – and that she lives on in small ways through you.

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    Nanekia Ansari
    January 19, 2018 at 3:33 pm

    This was a beautiful read. Thank you for allowing us into your world!

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    Sanaa Brooks
    January 21, 2018 at 5:11 pm

    LOL @ your smart mouth daughter. Lovely post dear.

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    January 22, 2018 at 11:22 am

    This was beautiful Kita. HUGS HUGS HUGS

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    Elle (CleverlyChanging)
    January 23, 2018 at 1:03 pm

    What a wonderful tribute and warm closeness you had with your mom. It’s beautiful to see how you’re honoring her memory.

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