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Business and Marriage

January 25, 2017

I’ve been told many times in my life that I will get sick of my husband and wouldn’t want to be around him often. Let me tell you, we had our moments where we didn’t like each other but I never wanted to be away from him especially for extended periods of time. My husband was my best friend and he was always first on my list as my partner in shenanigans. However, I have met many people who just need that time away from their spouse. Some couples can’t handle each other 24/7. There’s nothing wrong with that at all and it’s always great to be honest in a marriage. Anyways, if you’re thinking about going into business with your spouse at your side, here are a few things I have noticed in my experience.

Unless you both have a job outside of the business you’re doing together, you will be spending every waking moment together. This, above all else, can be the most challenging yet most rewarding. Having a husband home all day means consistent help with the kids and household chores. Plus, if something breaks, he’s there immediately to fix it in order for your day to keep running smoothly. It becomes more of a team effort and it truly makes you feel like you’re not alone in the daily hustle and bustle. However, the negative side to that is the fact that you can get on each other’s nerves from time to time or even often. This brings me to my point of learning to communicate and get along. Working a business together, especially if it’s a full time gig for both of you, means having to work on better communication and getting through hurdles together. It can be a wonderful bonding experience if approached the correct way. Now, if you don’t control yourself and are always flying off the handle and refuse to work with each other, then you’re going nowhere but to divorce land and quickly. Owning a business can be stressful but with two of you, the responsibilities should be 50/50 which means an equal load not only business wise but day to day duties wise. This also is a great way to assess each other’s strengths and weaknesses. If one person is horrible at one thing but good at another, let them handle the thing they’re good at even if it was something you wanted to do.

In my experience I have also noticed that it’s easy to take advantage of each other when in business together. I know my husband was unsure of himself when first helping me so he refused to do very much of the work for fear he would screw it up. Instead of chastising him, I would expound on his available moments to walk him through things one at a time, without him noticing he was actually learning something new. I felt a little taken advantage of at times because he would be having a fun day while I was stressing in the computer room trying to get caught up on everything. I can’t stress enough that in order for a business to work inside a marriage, responsibilities have to be shared equally. He began taking care of more of the house work in order to make up for the time I spend handling more of the business aspect. It was a fair trade in my eyes and his. Again, the key is working together and making compromises.

Don’t let work overwhelm you. If you and your spouse don’t have set work hours except your own that you set for yourself, take advantage of this because life is short. Just because you own a business doesn’t mean it has to take over your every moment. Take time for yourselves and family time in general. Set boundaries for yourself. I can easily work all day and make more money but you get to the point where you have to say, “What do I need and where can I and should I, stop?” Set clear goals. If you meet those goals early, take the rest of the time off. No need to push for more, after all, if you’re meeting your goal, then you’re meeting your budget plan.

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    Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle
    January 27, 2017 at 1:24 pm

    I love this post! Both my husband and I are self-employed, and it can be difficult to make time to be together. Luckily, our businesses are in the same field, so we’re working from home all the time.

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    Pam
    January 27, 2017 at 7:22 pm

    It is really important to set hour so if your work from home. It can get in the way of your relationship.

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    Marcie W.
    January 27, 2017 at 11:14 pm

    My husband and I both run a business, but not the same business. I think our daily time spent working apart allows us to cherish each other more every night.

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    Myrah Duque
    January 28, 2017 at 12:50 am

    We’ve been self-employed for 20 years. It’s important to know when to stop and spend time together. We make sure to have lunch together every day.

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    Liz Mays
    January 28, 2017 at 2:25 am

    I’m glad spouses can work closely together and still have a healthy relationship as long as there are clear plans. I always wondered if I’d be able to do something like that.

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    Theresa
    January 28, 2017 at 3:53 am

    I have wanted to spend long periods of time away from my husband, but I do appreciate the time apart that we have when working. When he’s on vacation, I sometimes look forward to him going back to work, only because I thrive on routine and he throws mine completely off schedule when he’s home all day. Boundaries are good!

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    Shannon Graham
    January 28, 2017 at 4:55 am

    I work with my husband and we defintiely have those moments where we get under each other’s skin. However, I’m still glad he’s there because there have been many times I would have had a super bad day had he not been.

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    Seattle Travel Blogger
    January 28, 2017 at 1:00 pm

    I like this post and believe it hits on some important comparisons in marriages.
    Having both of the partners working at home on the business can be challenging to the relationship, yet rewarding as you mention.

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    Toni | Boulder Locavore
    January 28, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    I really love this post! Finding that work and life balance is really a challenge when you both have full time work. These tips are really helpful! Would love to share it with friends!

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    Joyce Brewer
    January 28, 2017 at 2:03 pm

    My husband and I met at work before we got married. Now that we’ve been married for 8 years, working on projects together can get frustrating. So I limit how often we do and make the scope of the project really simple to avoid any disagreements.

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    Cassie Tucker
    January 29, 2017 at 12:36 am

    I heard all those statements about not wanting to be around my husband and that has never (well, usually) been true for me either. We constantly want to spend time with one another.

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    Dawn McAlexander
    January 29, 2017 at 2:33 am

    My husband and I run a business together, but we have an understanding. I am the boss of the business and he does what I tell him to do. It’s not a joke, it’s the way we get things done. And it fits our personalities. I like to be in charge, and he likes to take orders.

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    makeba
    January 29, 2017 at 10:32 pm

    I can surely relate to that unsure part – my husband was the same way when I came up with the idea of us starting a transportation business together. He would put everything on me during the planning process, so I just abandoned the idea altogether and branched out on my own. Things are much better now! lol

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    our family world
    January 30, 2017 at 1:32 pm

    well i’m happy working at home with my husband, everything is computer related and we are both freelancer. it’s an advantage to keep our marriage working!

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