Being a mother is tough. Add being a single mother….even tougher. There are times I have to tell my kids no and I feel bad but we gotta eat and we gotta have a place to stay. Many people ask me how I balance it all. I don’t…….something always lacks and sometimes it is the kids that go lacking. I don’t mean for that to happen but it does. I run three different businesses. A blog, social media management, and photography. I am going to combine my social media management and photography into one company (website coming soon) so that cuts out one thing but not really because I still have to be present for all three. Did I mention I am also running a non profit (that has lacked) and I am on the PTO board of my kids school. It’s hard….very hard! So how do I balance it all……well for one…the most important point…I am a stay at home mom so I get to be at home while trying to balance it all. Being at home presents a lot of challenges mostly I feel the need to nap ALL THE DAMN TIME! I also snack a lot and take on long unimportant phone calls. In between all that I act like I am cleaning and I try to put a meal together. Being at home isn’t easy but here is how I take advantage of balancing being at home, being a mother, and running different businesses
I make the most of weekends and batch process everything I can. That include pictures…so all the pretty pictures you see on my instagram feed most of them are taken in batches or I take a lot of photos while I’m out and then I spread them as much as I can. I also write up about two blog posts every weekend and spread them out for the upcoming weeks.
I make my kids do all of the cleaning. I mean what do I have them for…..They actually have chores so they know what to do and when to do them. My daughter is in charge of kitchen clean up in the mornings and my son in the evenings. They each have to fold a basket of clothes on wash day and I make them clean their own rooms and detail clean it once a week.
I spend 5 min on each of my social media channels 3 times a day. 5 min in the morning, 5 during the car line shenanigans, and then 5 min at night. That’s it…I only give 5 min so if I don’t see your post within my 5 min span then I’m sorry. I can’t spend all day on social media I will go mad.
I take advantage of quiet evenings. My kids have a bedtime of 9pm so I am working until the wee hours of mornings. Which is why I nap all day. I usually cut off at 1am and then sleep til about 5:30 and then when I drop them off in the mornings I work for 2 hours and then take a 2 hour nap. My body is designed this way and I have tried to change it but I can’t 🙁
Take your computer with you if you are going to after school activities. I need to invest in a smaller laptop mine is to big (anyone want to get me nicer tablet?) but I take it with me when my daughter has dance. The reception is shotty most of the time but I try to go and park in an area that has good reception while she is at dance and do work. I also find my way to a chick fil a or starbucks and get work done while she is at dance. It’s cold in most places so I dress with 5 jackets on but I manage to get a lot of work done while waiting on her.
While in the car pick up line I read other blogs. I have this thing called feedly and I scour through that and read up on blog posts. This is where I get ideas for content for my own site. If I am done early I look through Pinterest to see what they have going on. I make the most of my down time and utilize it
I carry my camera with me everywhere. So earlier I mentioned that I batch process but literally if I see something cool I take a picture. I also make my kids take pictures of me doing stuff too and I just save the photos to use at another time.
I hire VA’s so I had 3 but I sadly had to get rid of one because I coudn’t afford her anymore. She was excellent btw but I had to cut out some of the funds I had going out because I wasn’t making enough in (blog wise) to warrant paying 3 VA’s so now I have one and half. One that does the bulk of my work and the other picks up the extra slack if need be. Hiring a VA is a life saver. If you need the contacts of mine let me know.
I am so lucky I get to leave my kids at home by themselves for a few hours. My son is 11 and my daughter is 8 and the law in GA states that I can leave them for up to 2 hours by themselves I take full advantage of that. I don’t have any little babies so I can leave them to run errands or just go somewhere to work. Don’t be jealous and no I have 0 plans on having any more kids
These are just some of the things that I do to help me balance it all. It’s still a hard job….trust me I work harder than I play but I try to make sure I spend time with the kids and cut things off one day a week. I also make sure I spend time with myself because that’s truly important. How do you balance it all? Any tips for me?