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Balancing motherhood and 3 different businesses

August 28, 2017

Being a mother is tough. Add being a single mother….even tougher. There are times I have to tell my kids no and I feel bad but we gotta eat and we gotta have a place to stay. Many people ask me how I balance it all. I don’t…….something always lacks and sometimes it is the kids that go lacking. I don’t mean for that to happen but it does. I run three different businesses. A blog, social media management, and photography. I am going to combine my social media management and photography into one company (website coming soon) so that cuts out one thing but not really because I still have to be present for all three. Did I mention I am also running a non profit (that has lacked) and I am on the PTO board of my kids school. It’s hard….very hard! So how do I balance it all……well for one…the most important point…I am a stay at home mom so I get to be at home while trying to balance it all. Being at home presents a lot of challenges mostly I feel the need to nap ALL THE DAMN TIME! I also snack a lot and take on long unimportant phone calls. In between all that I act like I am cleaning and I try to put a meal together. Being at home isn’t easy but here is how I take advantage of balancing being at home, being a mother, and running different businesses

I make the most of weekends and batch process everything I can. That include pictures…so all the pretty pictures you see on my instagram feed most of them are taken in batches or I take a lot of photos while I’m out and then I spread them as much as I can. I also write up about two blog posts every weekend and spread them out for the upcoming weeks.

I make my kids do all of the cleaning. I mean what do I have them for…..They actually have chores so they know what to do and when to do them. My daughter is in charge of kitchen clean up in the mornings and my son in the evenings. They each have to fold a basket of clothes on wash day and I make them clean their own rooms and detail clean it once a week.

I spend 5 min on each of my social media channels 3 times a day. 5 min in the morning, 5 during the car line shenanigans, and then 5 min at night. That’s it…I only give 5 min so if I don’t see your post within my 5 min span then I’m sorry. I can’t spend all day on social media I will go mad.

I take advantage of quiet evenings. My kids have a bedtime of 9pm so I am working until the wee hours of mornings. Which is why I nap all day. I usually cut off at 1am and then sleep til about 5:30 and then when I drop them off in the mornings I work for 2 hours and then take a 2 hour nap. My body is designed this way and I have tried to change it but I can’t πŸ™

Take your computer with you if you are going to after school activities. I need to invest in a smaller laptop mine is to big (anyone want to get me nicer tablet?) but I take it with me when my daughter has dance. The reception is shotty most of the time but I try to go and park in an area that has good reception while she is at dance and do work. I also find my way to a chick fil a or starbucks and get work done while she is at dance. It’s cold in most places so I dress with 5 jackets on but I manage to get a lot of work done while waiting on her.

While in the car pick up line I read other blogs. I have this thing called feedly and I scour through that and read up on blog posts. This is where I get ideas for content for my own site. If I am done early I look through Pinterest to see what they have going on. I make the most of my down time and utilize it

I carry my camera with me everywhere. So earlier I mentioned that I batch process but literally if I see something cool I take a picture. I also make my kids take pictures of me doing stuff too and I just save the photos to use at another time.

I hire VA’s so I had 3 but I sadly had to get rid of one because I coudn’t afford her anymore. She was excellent btw but I had to cut out some of the funds I had going out because I wasn’t making enough in (blog wise) to warrant paying 3 VA’s so now I have one and half. One that does the bulk of my work and the other picks up the extra slack if need be. Hiring a VA is a life saver. If you need the contacts of mine let me know.

I am so lucky I get to leave my kids at home by themselves for a few hours. My son is 11 and my daughter is 8 and the law in GA states that I can leave them for up to 2 hours by themselves I take full advantage of that. I don’t have any little babies so I can leave them to run errands or just go somewhere to work. Don’t be jealous and no I have 0 plans on having any more kids

These are just some of the things that I do to help me balance it all. It’s still a hard job….trust me I work harder than I play but I try to make sure I spend time with the kids and cut things off one day a week. I also make sure I spend time with myself because that’s truly important. How do you balance it all? Any tips for me?

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    Alli Smith
    August 28, 2017 at 12:28 pm

    It’s hard balancing work and kids and all the other things constantly pulling us in so many directions. I think it’s awesome that your kids have chores. It takes everyone pitching in and doing their part to make it work. I don’t think I could do it all without my VA team. I love writing and photography. I really don’t care for the business side of social media and would go crazy if I had to do it all day.

    My heart goes out to single moms who have to do it all.

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      Paula schuck
      August 30, 2017 at 3:45 am

      It’s definitely very hard combining all of these facets of your life. It’s great when kids can help out and take up some of that responsibility at home . I squeee work In When able and take my laptop everywhere

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    Amber Myers
    August 28, 2017 at 12:32 pm

    Whew, I imagine it can get tricky. I mean, 3 businesses, PLUS being a mother?! That’s tough! But you’re doing awesome.

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    Jeanette
    August 28, 2017 at 1:31 pm

    This is hardwork to be a parent and working. I only have one business and I have a hard time keeping up with it I can’t imagine doing three. You are awesome.

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    candy
    August 28, 2017 at 1:49 pm

    Balancing work, family and home plus having time for yourself and husband can get challenging at times.

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    Tomi C
    August 28, 2017 at 2:26 pm

    Sounds like you are doing a great job managing everything. Just remember ONE day at a time. There is enough time to do everything you need to do. Make a list of things you need to do and prioritize accordingly. Keep up the good work and stay encouraged.

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    Jennifer
    August 28, 2017 at 2:47 pm

    Wow, you are truly an inspiration. I can barely handle Motherhood and my regular job. Blogging has taken a backseat to regular life, and that upsets me. You are showing me that it can be done!

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    Kenya G. Johnson
    August 28, 2017 at 6:09 pm

    I did so much better keeping up when I used Feedly. That’s a good idea to catch up with you’re waiting here and there. As for activities my son is like, “Mom, can you please just watch me this time?”

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    Lisa
    August 28, 2017 at 7:13 pm

    I’m a lot like this and used to stay up all hours of the night trying to catch up on work. Instead I go to bed by 10 every night and get up at 5am. I’m able to get in at least a couple hours of work before the kids get up and it has made all the difference.

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    Liz Mays
    August 28, 2017 at 8:10 pm

    I can definitely see how making your businesses portable can help you stay on track. A good, reliable laptop can go a long way.

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    Joline
    August 28, 2017 at 8:46 pm

    You are a superhero. I’m going crazy organizing my life and I don’t even have kids! I always wondered how my parents did it and only now that I’m an adult can I truly appreciate everything they’ve done. Getting your kids to help is great. No tips from me though….I think you’re already doing an awesome job πŸ™‚

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    Our Family World
    August 28, 2017 at 9:26 pm

    We are in the same boat. I try as much as possible to keep my life organized and some days it just get crazy. My kids help around the house, but the only issue is consistency. Well, they are grown ups so they don’t make messes anymore, compared to those days when they were kids. No matter how hectic my day has been, I always find time to rest, reflect, and pray.

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    Sarah Honey
    August 28, 2017 at 9:55 pm

    You are amazing! It is hard to balance motherhood and work let alone 3 businesses. Great job!

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    Jaime Nicole
    August 28, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    I hear you! I have a full time job that I work 50 hours a week, a part time job, and my blog! It’s crazy but my girls and I make it work!

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    Pam
    August 29, 2017 at 12:27 am

    It can be so hard to balance work and a running your own business. I can’t even imagine running three of them!

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    valmg @ Mom Knows It All
    August 29, 2017 at 5:47 am

    I have been where you are, juggling family and all that comes with that, full time blogging (two here) and work outside of the home. I’m married and it was a lot for me.

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    Sandy N Vyjay
    August 29, 2017 at 5:49 am

    Hats off to you for balancing everything so beautifully. I know it is such a challenge. Need to take a leaf or two out of your life.

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    Melanie Smith
    August 29, 2017 at 6:04 pm

    Wow! It’s incredible how you can be a mother while you have three jobs! I admire you!

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    Eloise
    August 29, 2017 at 7:04 pm

    We have something in common! I was reading this and it seems like you were writing about me! It IS tough! that’s why it’s so important to recognize and hold on to those special moments throughout the days and be thankful for those moments too! (that’s what makes life worth all the hardships) I wish you success and happiness now and forever : )

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    Amanda
    August 29, 2017 at 10:52 pm

    Ugh, balance. I am not so sure it exists for moms, working or otherwise. And as someone like you with three jobs? I’m in awe of you. Great work, mama!

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    Nellie
    August 30, 2017 at 2:42 pm

    It’s really tough balancing so much but you are doing an awesome job!

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