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Are you an old soul?

I grew up with an older mother. Most people start having kids in their 20’s (most). I think the best time to have them is in your early 30’s. My mom had me at 34. Because she had me as an older mom I grew up around older people. A lot of people will tell me wow Kita you have an old soul. I think growing up around older people I have learned a lot of wise things and I have also learned that old school still wins when it comes to certain situations even in this new school world. Let’s look at a few ways you could be considered old school or having an old soul

You like to think things through – I am an old soul. I think about the consequences (sometimes I write up a list) of the pros and cons to doing it and the different outcomes of what would happen if I did something. I don’t just rush into things without thinking them through. Example: I am still looking for jobs and found one that I can work from home with. They had a conference call and everything for the job and I was hired. So when I asked where the website was (I searched but couldn’t find anything on the company) they said they wanted to hire people first then launch the website. Hmmm so you want my social security card, bank info for direct deposit, and other personal items and your company doesn’t have a website. Some people would jump for it especially since its work from home but me…I had to sit and think about it. I think not because I don’t even know if you are a real company and then you have all my personal info.

You don’t go out for the sake of going out – I am a homebody. If someone asks me to go with them somewhere I am asking questions Why, where, and how much will this cost me.  Going out just because, seems pointless to me; I would rather save my money and my time and do something of quality. I don’t want to be required to go out to lunch with you if all you want to do is talk about the latest gossip. You can email or text that to me so I won’t have to spend money on a meal to hear about it

You don’t get into the latest craze – No need too…it will come back around trust me. Classic clothes will always stand the test of time. Clothes that go in and out of season do just that…go in and out. Being a style chaser or wanting the latest gadget is nice but now where does that stuff end up once it’s out of style. I got on the train to get a tablet I did it to read my books but I missed the feel of a real book and the pad didn’t do me any good because I needed to feel a real keyboard. My daughter now has my tablet and I don’t even miss it.

You love hanging with older people – I don’t have many friends on age with me. All of my friends are around 8-10 yrs older than I am. I find that older people are about business and people my age aren’t quite there. (Unless they grew up old school like me) Older people have been there done that and they will tell you exactly what you may be getting into when it comes to business, men, jobs, life. I love a person who has been there done that. I can hear their mistakes and stories and come to a better conclusion for my life.

You are calm in certain situations – Since I am an old soul I have been to a lot of funerals. I am calm when it comes to dealing with lost. I am calm when kids fall down and scrape their leg….omm their kids that will happen. I remember a friend of mine who just had a baby and her baby got shots the baby had a fever afterwards she panicked and went crazy thinking her baby needed an ambulance….really. Get a cool cloth get the fever down then calmly call your child’s doctor office and they will walk you through the next steps. It happens as you get older you will get calmer. Being calm allows you to stop. Wait. Listen. Then decide what steps to take next.

You value deep connections – You want real and true friends. I did a post a while ago on friendship and personally I am only looking for people who value where I am in my life right now.  Half-hearted friendships, surface-level relationships and fly-by-night hook-ups are not my thing. My circle stays great because I don’t want anything half when it comes to connections.

Are you an old soul?

Are you an old soul?

18 Comments

  • Alli Smith
    October 24, 2016 at 12:58 pm

    I’ve always called my daughter an old soul – she loves my 70’s music! :). My grandma had several of her children over the age of 30 and it seems to be the growing trend as more women opt to wait. I’ve always loved hearing the stories of my mom and dad growing up.

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  • Joyce Brewer
    October 24, 2016 at 1:09 pm

    My Mom was almost 40 when I was born. All of my siblings are 12+ years older than me. I have nieces and nephews who are older than me.
    I love old music. My parents took me to see The Manhattans in concert and it was one of the best. I grew up listening to the 4 Tops and The Whispers.

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  • Franc Ramon
    October 24, 2016 at 3:05 pm

    I am an old soul and I enjoy it that way. It’s much better being that way as you get more methodical and more organized.

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  • Jeanette
    October 24, 2016 at 3:06 pm

    My mom had me at 35 and I would have to say I am similar to what you said above. I have never been into the same trends as other people are and I value the connections I have even if it is not as many friends as others have!

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  • Jacqui @FlightsFancyMom
    October 24, 2016 at 5:35 pm

    I believe that my daughter and I are both old souls. We both, in our own ways, meet what you said. I’m a homebody, don’t get into the latest craze and have a few friends that I hold dear. My daughter is quite comfortable talking with older people. Her teachers always complimented us on her ability to talk with them not as a student to teacher, but as a person to person.

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  • lisa
    October 24, 2016 at 7:16 pm

    I know I am an old soul. I think I figured this out a long time ago. I enjoy hanging out with people that fit my mental state and not my age. I also married a man 13 years older than myself!

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  • Mitch
    October 24, 2016 at 8:05 pm

    I had my son at 44! We hang out with the parents of all his school friends, and some of them could be my kid! But it all works out!

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  • Brandy
    October 24, 2016 at 10:58 pm

    I have been often told that I am, but I have no idea. Your list makes me believe that I truly am an old soul and that makes me smile to be honest 🙂

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  • Liz Mays
    October 25, 2016 at 12:17 am

    I think these are pretty good qualities for a person to have. I do think your perspective tends to change based on the people you spend the most time with.

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  • Bella
    October 25, 2016 at 12:23 am

    No, not even a little bit but my sister absolutely is. She has always been so protective over me and very wise- we are very much opposites.

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  • Marysa
    October 25, 2016 at 1:18 am

    This is definitely me too. I was raised by my grandmother, and I always had a quiet personality. I think I was mature for my age, but I also like to live vicariously through my kids 🙂

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  • Stephen
    October 25, 2016 at 1:22 am

    I have been called an old soul so many times, at least your article has brought some more light into for me 🙂

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  • Rebecca Swenor
    October 25, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    This is an interesting post indeed. I can honestly say that my cousin has an old soul because he was raised by my grandparents He literally acts and gives great advise like my grandmother. I actually think in most cases it is better to have a older mother. Thanks for sharing the topic and your experience.

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  • nikki
    October 25, 2016 at 6:06 pm

    I always call my sister an old soul. She loves 80’s fashion and music and that is why my sister and my grandma would a good partners

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  • Bonnie @wemake7
    October 26, 2016 at 2:13 am

    My mom was actually pretty young when she had me. It seems more common now too for people to have children later on in life.

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  • Amanda Love
    October 26, 2016 at 4:18 am

    I do consider myself an old soul, some would probably call it boring. But I enjoy my life especially my life with my kids around. I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

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  • Nellie
    October 26, 2016 at 1:22 pm

    omg I’ve been an old soul since I was born!! I can identify with all of these especially the fact that most of my friends are way older than me and are the only people I can trust to understand me.

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  • Krystal
    October 27, 2016 at 1:32 am

    I always feel like I am a bit of both. I like relaxing and time to myself, but I do LOVE all those silly viral videos and crazes. Snapchat? Sign me up!

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