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8 Tips on How to Love Yourself

May 2, 2017

The biggest misconception about love is that we are supposed to shower it upon others at all times while putting ourselves aside. Of course, loving others is a wonderful thing. Even if we don’t know the person, we should always act out of love and do the best we can to be loving and kind to others. However, how many of us forget that love is meant for us to? I’m not talking about receiving it from others, I’m talking about giving it to ourselves. There’s no need to go overboard but there is a need for it to at least exist in your life. It can be extremely hard to learn how to put yourself out of the way so you can love yourself. Sounds confusing, right? Here are a few tips to help you to learn to love yourself.


  1. Don’t Let the Mirror Lie to You – It’s easy for us to look in a mirror and spot all the “flaws” we have. Mirrors themselves are not kind to your appearance. Many mirrors slightly distort your figure and appearance often making you look slightly different than you actually look. You literally can’t trust what is looking back at you.
  2. Forget Hollywood, Magazines, and Celebs – You don’t have to be “perfect” by Hollywood’s standards to love yourself. Are your friends and family “perfect” by Hollywood’s standards? No, but you still love them so do the same for yourself. P.S. Those people don’t look like that in real life, keep that in mind.
  3. Don’t Rely on Makeup – Makeup or other things that alter your appearance or cover it up (this goes for guys as well) is a gateway to not letting your true self shine. Don’t get me wrong, a little bit of makeup can really accent a person but when you start obsessing and put so much on that you literally look like a completely different person, you’re not allowing yourself to love you, you’re setting yourself up to only love the person you are once your makeup is on. There will be times where there won’t be anything to cover you up and you still need to love yourself and be just as confident then as you are when you’re covered up.
  4. Enjoy Your Alone Time – Sometimes we feel like we need others around to always validate our importance. Start taking alone time and using it to actually enjoy yourself. Don’t call or message somebody, actually chill with yourself. Read a book, watch some Netflix, do you. Be comfortable being alone because that means you love yourself and have confidence in who you are and don’t need somebody to tell you or show you that.
  5. Set Goals – Listen, most of us could be healthier. If you look in the mirror and know you need to lose a few pounds, don’t obsess over it and start hating yourself. If you know, health wise, that it would be better to lose a few pounds, set a healthy goal and start losing those few pounds. Just because you’ve got a few pounds to lose doesn’t mean you’re any less beautiful than you were before, it just means you’re normal. Setting goals goes for anything in life to better yourself. Loving yourself means striving to be the best you can be. Love yourself enough to be honest with yourself on a daily basis and say, “What could I do better on?” We do this with friends and family because we love them and want to help them reach their full potential, we should do this with ourselves, in ALL areas of our life.
  6. Don’t Be Complacent – Being complacent means you don’t take yourself seriously. Start taking yourself seriously in your abilities and the longer you do that, the more you will find confidence in yourself. Confidence leads to loving yourself more.
  7. Don’t Be Afraid to Get Help – I have a friend recently who got sick and put on 50 pounds in two months. She had been used to being in shape all the time and it really did a number on her confidence and the love she had for herself. She worked out every day and went on diets to counteract the weight. Nothing was helping. She had trouble admitting that it could be a sickness and had trouble admitting she had gained so much weight. After finally seeing a doctor, she was able to come to terms with her sickness and the weight and begin healing. Professionals are out there to help us when it goes beyond our capabilities. Don’t be afraid to go to them for help. If you have trouble with weight, don’t dismiss it, there could be an underlying issue. Sometimes when we work really hard towards a goal and aren’t making it anywhere, it can really make us feel defeated and worthless—not good enough. This is the way my friend felt when her efforts resulted in zero change. Sometimes letting others step in and help will show us reality instead of what we’ve put in our own heads as truth.
  8. Forget the Talk, Go For the Action – Most of us do a lot of talking but never follow through with it. Loving others means keeping your word so why not do the same for yourself? How many years have you been telling yourself you were going to read that book or take that trip? How many times have you driven by a store and made a note in your head that you would stop in because in interested you? Stop putting those things off. Life is short. By all means, don’t shirk responsibilities but put aside some of the things that aren’t pressing and keep your word to yourself. Loving yourself means not living with false promises you’ve given yourself.

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    Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle
    May 3, 2017 at 5:02 pm

    This is such an important post. We need to remember to love ourselves. We tend to forget that simple premise in the process of taking care of our families.

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    Vera Sweeney
    May 3, 2017 at 5:08 pm

    Self-care is SO important! We have to remember to take care of ourselves. We can’t take care of anyone else if we neglect ourselves.

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    Bren Lee | A Splash of Cray
    May 3, 2017 at 8:52 pm

    So very true, Kita! You nailed it girl. Above all, we must love ourselves first!

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    Liz Mays
    May 3, 2017 at 9:16 pm

    These are important things to keep in the back of your mind. Number 8 is great. I know there are things I want to do that I keep putting off.

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    May 4, 2017 at 12:27 am

    These are all great tips on how to learn to love yourself. I like to speak positives into the mirror and focus on what I LOVE about myself in the mirror. That’s an easy way to get into a routine of loving yourself I think 🙂

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    May 4, 2017 at 1:44 am

    It is really important to take care of yourself and to care about yourself. These are good tips.

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    May 4, 2017 at 1:49 am

    Women tend to be so hard on themselves and have a habit of pushing everyone’s need before their own. These are all such wonderful ways to shower yourself with a little bit of love each day so you can feel good about yourself!

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    Dawn McAlexander
    May 4, 2017 at 12:15 pm

    I think that I live my life by all of these rules. I don’t wear makeup like I used to and I don’t pay much attention to what people say about me. I set goals and I go for them. This is the best way that I can avoid depression, which I have battled my whole life. I think a lot of it was because I let other people’s thoughts rule me before. I have learned not to let that happen.

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    Tracey Zimmer
    May 4, 2017 at 1:26 pm

    What an important post! I am learning the importance of self care as a new mom – when you feel good you are a better person and its for everyone’s benefit!

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    May 4, 2017 at 3:02 pm

    This is so important and something I find to be a constant struggle for myself. I’m learning though and starting to put myself in a more important stance in my life more.

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    May 4, 2017 at 3:17 pm

    These are excellent tips. I always say you need to be happy with yourself first before others.

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    Seattle Travel Blogger
    May 4, 2017 at 4:14 pm

    This is an interesting article. I really get a lot out of reading it – many items are so good for personal building. I always say you have to be your own best friend first. I bookmarked this for later reference also!

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    Amy Desrosiers
    May 4, 2017 at 5:53 pm

    I am learning to love myself more with each passing day. Thank you for these reminders on how to be a better person.

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    Sheena Tatum
    May 4, 2017 at 7:35 pm

    It can be a struggle to block out the lies around us. I have started to let go of “molds” and make my own way and it has made me much happier.

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    My Teen Guide
    May 4, 2017 at 9:18 pm

    I need to remind myself that this body is not made of super-cells and is not immortal. I tend to work myself to exhaustion and miss out on taking my vitamins. Thanks for the reminders to take care of myself too, more than I take care of others.

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    Katrina gehman
    May 4, 2017 at 9:46 pm

    great tips! we are our own worst critics

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    May 4, 2017 at 10:19 pm

    The best tip is to have time for yourself. Sometime you need solitude to really enjoy your own company and thats really loving on yourself.

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    Annemarie LeBlanc
    May 4, 2017 at 11:05 pm

    I am slowly learning to love myself in more ways than before. Although you may think it is funny, (my kids think it is), but every time I wake up in the morning, I say my prayers first and then raise my hands and say, “Today I will do great things!” I don’t know what magic that has, but it does make me feel good about myself.

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    May 5, 2017 at 12:59 am

    It’s easy to put others first, definitely. It took me so many years to learn it’s important to put myself up there too. I’m sure I’m not alone.

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    Mary Edwards
    May 5, 2017 at 1:45 am

    Setting goals is great- I love writing them down and checking them off. Makes me feel accomplished and important!

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    Janell Poulette
    May 5, 2017 at 4:43 am

    It’s so true that you need to always love yourself and never try to be someone or something else. This is a great reminder for everyone, men and women, to love themselves.

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    Carol Cassara
    May 5, 2017 at 7:06 pm

    Perhaps one of the things that I enjoyed the most when I was single was the me time that I gave myself. It’s a time where I don’t have to think about work or anything else and just do the things that I want. That made me love myself more everyday.

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    Rachel Ferrucci
    May 8, 2017 at 4:22 pm

    This is a great post. We do forget to give to ourselves and to love us as we are. Although I love to put on makeup and get dressed up, I do all natural days to keep myself real.

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