We all know how hard it can be to communicate with the opposite sex. Whether you’re a woman or a man, there are certain barriers that always seem to be there at some point when you’re involved with the opposite sex. There are very easy explanations for this so here are 8 tips to help you understand how to better communicate to the opposite sex.
- Put emotions away. Ladies, this one is more aimed at us, for the most part. We tend to let emotions rule our outlook and men just aren’t wired that way. We want them to see things the way we do but they have a really difficult time doing that. It’s not because they’re being mean or don’t like you, most of the time it’s just because well, science. Men, the main emotion that can get in your way is indifference or your ego. If the women are expected to put up with your quirks, try to be understanding of theirs as well. You will never understand it fully but doing your best is all they ever ask.
- Forget your pride. In discussions, especially these days, people always want to be the one that prevails. Of course, I mean, who likes losing or failing? Nobody does. However, when communicating with the opposite sex, it’s ok to let your pride go a bit. You don’t always have to be the right one. In fact, nobody is ever right 100% of the time. Being able to lay pride aside and admit you’re wrong is a huge sign of maturity.
- Put yourself in their shoes. Often times when communicating with the opposite sex, we forget that the way we’re wired just simply isn’t the same. So, stepping back and seeing things from their perspective in the best way we know how, tends to give us a bit more understanding concerning their actions, etc.
- Listen. A lot of people think they’re good at this one and maybe they are but it’s a lot harder than it seems. Men are usually less talkative however, that doesn’t mean they’re actually listening. You can be talking out them but they most likely tuned out and wouldn’t be able to respond to you in more of a detailed manner. Ladies, we talk…a lot. So, shut that pie hole and let the man have a bit to talk. I have often times sat there in silence which sounds silly however, my husband would eventually say something and as long as I stayed quieter, he would just yack away once he got into it. It’s a great way to learn more details you never knew about them.
- Respond. You wouldn’t think this would be hard but it truly is. People respond to each other but rarely is it a true response. If someone shares something important with you, which women do more often than men it seems, don’t respond with an “ok.” Actually respond and expound on what someone is saying, that shows true interest and care in what they’re trying to communicate to you.
- Actually communicate. Men and women alike (more men it seems) have problems with communicating in general. How can you better communication if you’re not doing it in the first place? Even if you don’t think you need to say, say it anyways unless it’s unnecessary in the sense of inappropriate, rude, etc.
- Be detailed. It’s easy to forget to mention details because we already know what we’re trying to communicate. The only problem is, one minor detailed being left out can make a big difference. Don’t forget that in communication, the other party don’t know what you’re thinking so being a bit more detailed can save a lot of grief and open up for a smoother path of communication.
- Don’t communicate too much. You don’t hear this often but I had a friend who understood this a lot. When she dated her now husband, they lived quite a distance from each other so they had to rely on communication as a connection. She will be the first to tell you that too much communication leads to fights. Sometimes the best communication is silence.