tip tuesday

8 Tips on Better Communication with the Opposite Sex

January 31, 2017

We all know how hard it can be to communicate with the opposite sex. Whether you’re a woman or a man, there are certain barriers that always seem to be there at some point when you’re involved with the opposite sex. There are very easy explanations for this so here are 8 tips to help you understand how to better communicate to the opposite sex.


  1. Put emotions away. Ladies, this one is more aimed at us, for the most part. We tend to let emotions rule our outlook and men just aren’t wired that way. We want them to see things the way we do but they have a really difficult time doing that. It’s not because they’re being mean or don’t like you, most of the time it’s just because well, science. Men, the main emotion that can get in your way is indifference or your ego. If the women are expected to put up with your quirks, try to be understanding of theirs as well. You will never understand it fully but doing your best is all they ever ask.
  2. Forget your pride. In discussions, especially these days, people always want to be the one that prevails. Of course, I mean, who likes losing or failing? Nobody does. However, when communicating with the opposite sex, it’s ok to let your pride go a bit. You don’t always have to be the right one. In fact, nobody is ever right 100% of the time. Being able to lay pride aside and admit you’re wrong is a huge sign of maturity.
  3. Put yourself in their shoes. Often times when communicating with the opposite sex, we forget that the way we’re wired just simply isn’t the same. So, stepping back and seeing things from their perspective in the best way we know how, tends to give us a bit more understanding concerning their actions, etc.
  4. Listen. A lot of people think they’re good at this one and maybe they are but it’s a lot harder than it seems. Men are usually less talkative however, that doesn’t mean they’re actually listening. You can be talking out them but they most likely tuned out and wouldn’t be able to respond to you in more of a detailed manner. Ladies, we talk…a lot. So, shut that pie hole and let the man have a bit to talk. I have often times sat there in silence which sounds silly however, my husband would eventually say something and as long as I stayed quieter, he would just yack away once he got into it. It’s a great way to learn more details you never knew about them.
  5. Respond. You wouldn’t think this would be hard but it truly is. People respond to each other but rarely is it a true response. If someone shares something important with you, which women do more often than men it seems, don’t respond with an “ok.” Actually respond and expound on what someone is saying, that shows true interest and care in what they’re trying to communicate to you.
  6. Actually communicate. Men and women alike (more men it seems) have problems with communicating in general. How can you better communication if you’re not doing it in the first place? Even if you don’t think you need to say, say it anyways unless it’s unnecessary in the sense of inappropriate, rude, etc.
  7. Be detailed. It’s easy to forget to mention details because we already know what we’re trying to communicate. The only problem is, one minor detailed being left out can make a big difference. Don’t forget that in communication, the other party don’t know what you’re thinking so being a bit more detailed can save a lot of grief and open up for a smoother path of communication.
  8. Don’t communicate too much. You don’t hear this often but I had a friend who understood this a lot. When she dated her now husband, they lived quite a distance from each other so they had to rely on communication as a connection. She will be the first to tell you that too much communication leads to fights. Sometimes the best communication is silence.

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    Bren Pace
    January 31, 2017 at 11:22 pm

    Hey Kita,

    I love these tips. Too often we forget how to communicate which can lead to a disaster in a relationship. I’m a good listener and talker. Wish my hubs was. 🙂


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    robin masshole mommy
    February 1, 2017 at 12:47 pm

    I try to put myself in my husband’s shoes a lot. It usually helps me see it from his point of view.

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    Alli Smith
    February 1, 2017 at 1:12 pm

    Women do tend to be more emotional! I’ve been trying to listen more lately. Seems I talk way more than my husband does and he doesn’t seem to mind it at all. Good thing we are BFF’s!

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    Paula Schuck
    February 1, 2017 at 2:24 pm

    I really love this post. Men and women can be a bit like cats and dogs at times. One minute they’re snuggled up on the couch, the next minute the dog is hiding and the cat is full-on claws out. LOL

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    Jenn @ EngineerMommy
    February 1, 2017 at 3:56 pm

    It’s so important to communicate properly with the opposite sex. These are great tips! I think we all need to listen more and make sure we put ourselves in the other person’s shoes.

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    February 1, 2017 at 4:21 pm

    These are all great tips and I wish more people would listen to them. There might be less divorce in the country if we would just sit down and listen to each other put emotions to the side.

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    Dawn McAlexander
    February 1, 2017 at 4:52 pm

    I think this post would be great for both me and my husband to read together. We don’t argue a whole lot, but when we do, it seems to be counterproductive because neither of us can see the other one’s point of view.

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    February 1, 2017 at 6:27 pm

    My husband and I communicate all the time. We need to keep each other in the know about ourselves and our family. But we do also understand the importance of just being there for each other even in silence.

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    February 1, 2017 at 7:06 pm

    Listening is hard, but it improves communication with anyone. We really all need to slow down and try to understand what other people are saying.

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    Christopher Lewis
    February 1, 2017 at 7:21 pm

    This is great. Listening is hard but it is so important. Especially after being in a long term relationship you cannot get into the rut of taking your significant other for granted and you have to invest your time and effort into the relationship. Thank you for sharing this.

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    Bill S
    February 1, 2017 at 7:28 pm

    Communication is so important in a relationship!! These are great tips for any relationship with the oppoosite sex.

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    valmg @ Mom Knows It All
    February 1, 2017 at 7:30 pm

    Your point on listening is exactly right. Most people think listening is just hearing but it isn’t. Active listening means hearing, considering and even asking or restating to be sure you understand. It’s not a matter of just not speaking.

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    February 1, 2017 at 8:18 pm

    Communications is such an important feature to nourish when you are married. Great suggestions.

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    February 1, 2017 at 10:57 pm

    These are great tips! I know I always have to watch myself because I hate losing so much!

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    Stephanie Pass
    February 2, 2017 at 12:59 am

    These are great tips. I think communication is so, so important. I recently poured my heart out to my husband about something that has really been bothering me. I was surprised and thankful he was so receptive.

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    Paula Bendfeldt Diaz
    February 2, 2017 at 2:19 am

    These are all great tips. For me the most important thing you can do to have a healthy relationship is have great communication.

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    Ali Cummins
    February 2, 2017 at 11:07 am

    These are good things to keep in mind when communicating with the opposite sex. I’ve found honest and open communication is always the best. No games!

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    Mimi Green
    February 2, 2017 at 12:32 pm

    Being a great communicator is something I have to constantly work on. I don’t naturally have the tools nor have I been taught. I’ve come a long way despite those things.

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    Kita Bryant
    February 2, 2017 at 11:01 pm

    These tips can go a long way in a relationship. It can be so difficult sometimes to put up with one another, but remembering this simple things can make all the difference in creating a healthy, lasting relationship.

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    Bonnie G
    February 3, 2017 at 1:00 am

    These are all really great tips. Sometimes its so hard to communicate. Communication is really important though.

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    Dawn Gibson-Thigpen
    February 3, 2017 at 9:48 am

    communication has always been an issue for me. we didnt do a lot of that in my house while growing up. these are some awesome tips.

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