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11 Life lessons I learned from my son

June 5, 2017

My son’s birthday is today! He is 11 years old and my little man. When I first got pregnant with him the hubs and I were kind of surprised because….I was still on birth control. I was taking some antibiotics at the time for a teeth pain which cancelled out the birth control which led me to get pregnant….I was scared because I drank all the things *side eye* before I knew I was pregnant. When we went in to check the heartbeat we got a bit scared because we didn’t hear anything. The Dr. was calm and said maybe it’s to early. I had a miscarriage a few years before and I was panicking that I was having another one. We came home and I cried myself to sleep for a few nights thinking the worse. After two weeks of waiting and waiting we went back in to check and there was that heartbeat. My husband had to work so he didn’t get to come to any of my Dr. Appts. I remember he did make it to the one where they told me the sex of the baby. A boy! That’s all he needed to know. Fast Forward to the week when he was supposed to be born. He was due May 29, 2006……it came and it went. My mom was like let’s walk it out do something get this baby moving…he didn’t budge. The Dr. set aside the date of 6-6-06 to go ahead and get the baby out. Well my mom who goes to church on a daily was like we aren’t having no devil baby (look up 666) So on June 4th I started to feel the baby less and less. I went to the hospital and they said the fluid was low….let’s start the labor. So on June 5th at 5:30am my son was born. He came out hungry…didn’t really cry just started sucking on his hands. I had a C-Section so I didn’t see him until a few hours after he was born and he was just a chunky ole thing. Fast forward to 11 years and now I have a upcoming middle schooler. My son has taught me some valuable lessons over these past years…I want to share a few with you

Lesson 1. Hold the door open so others can walk through – My son is a gentlemen I didn’t teach him but he always holds the door open for me. He does that for everyone…men and women he always stands there and holds the door open. We as adults are always quick to close the doors on others or hurry inside and don’t look back to help someone up. Once you have made it how about come back and hold the door open for others

Lesson 2. Hiding doesn’t do any good – My son hides his homework a lot. I always find it but it’s always late because I am so busy that I sometimes forget to check his stuff. He knows this so he hides things from me. Eventually I find out though and it always catches up to you. Stop hiding things….someone will find it.

Lesson 3. Be flexible and let’s just eat breakfast for dinner – I like to eat breakfast for breakfast….I mean really waffles for dinner but my son teaches me that life has to be lived in a flexible way. I have to be open to changes and doing new things. Switching it up sometimes is good

Lesson 4. If you don’t ask, you don’t get – Sometimes we need to just ask for what we want. Even if it’s a no still ask….it never hurts to ask. ย You never know what compromises people are willing to make

Lesson 5. There are people who are nice and people who are mean – I don’t teach my kids to judge others by the color of their skin, religious aspects, or gender. My son always says that he puts people in two categories…mean people and nice people. That’s it!

Lesson 6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship – My son and his friend had a little dispute because his friend said that he couldn’t hang with him because he didn’t have on the latest shoes. I told my son to not hang with people like that who are into material things. My son said mom its ok….it’s just a little dispute we are still going to be friends. Sure enough the little boy apologized to him and said you know what your shoes are cool and I bet you saved money by not buying the latest gear.

Lesson 7. When you are stressed float awhile – My son can’t swim but he can float. Every time he gets in the pool he doesn’t bother to swim or attempt to swim he just floats. I always ask why he just doesn’t practice his swimming he says mom don’t stress just let me float I don’t have to always swim

Lesson 8 – You can’t always get what you want – My son has started to tell his sister this after she can’t get her way. I think he learned this one from me but it’s a slap in the face sometimes when I hear his words repeated to me when I want something lol

Lesson 9 – To heal a wound you need to stop touching it – I remember my son got stabbed with a pencil at school. I took the band aid off and tried to look at it, he said mom just put some peroxide on it and don’t touch it….it needs to heal on it’s own. It won’t heal if you keep messing with it….

Lesson 10 – Only boring people are bored –ย My son is never bored. I ask him why he says it’s because he’s not a boring person. Funny how sometimes people will always say they are bored….its’ because they are boring and they don’t have anything to occupy their time

Lesson 11 – To many of us are not living our dreams because we are to busy living our fears – My son went to visit an airport on a field trip a few weeks ago and said mom I know you’ve never been on a plane but my dreams are to travel the world and live life. I have no time for fears because I want to see everything before I get old…..Wise lesson from my son. He is teaching me to live beyond my fears and just go for it.

My son will be going to middle school where the girls will be on him and he will have to learn how to be just a tad bit more independent. I think he will be okay because of the many things I have instilled in him. He will always be my baby boy no matter what. What life lessons have you learned from your kids?

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    Kemkem
    June 5, 2017 at 1:27 pm

    What a handsome son you have! Happy Birthday and so glad you were able to learn something from him as well. It’s not all one way. I love lesson number 6. I’ve been guilty of that in the past and now make a conscious effort to make sure l don’t repeat the mistake.

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    robin rue
    June 5, 2017 at 2:25 pm

    We eat brinner (breakfast for dinner) at least once a week. My kids LOVE their pancakes ๐Ÿ™‚

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    Dana Carmel
    June 5, 2017 at 2:32 pm

    Your son is a wise old soul. My baby is only three months, but she’s already taught me so many life lessons about patience and unconditional love. This is a great post because it’s a reminder that we are meant to learn from our children just as they learn from us.

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    Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle
    June 5, 2017 at 3:05 pm

    This is such a wonderful post. We can learn so much from our kids if we’re open to the idea that they might be able to show us something we adults haven’t seen.

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    Vera Sweeney
    June 5, 2017 at 3:07 pm

    Kids can teach us so much. As adults, we tend to think we know everything, but sometimes the most important lessons can be learned from humans with the least experience.

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    Tracey
    June 5, 2017 at 3:34 pm

    What a beautiful post. Kids are amazing and I think there is so much we can learn just by watching and listening to our kids.

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    EG III
    June 5, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    So beautiful how even as adults we can learn things from children. I pray that your son continues to grow and bloom into a wonderful young man.

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    Sarah Bailey
    June 5, 2017 at 5:46 pm

    Haha what some amazing lessons learnt. I wish I had thought of hiding home work ;). Amazing what kids can teach you.

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    Kelly Hutchinson
    June 5, 2017 at 8:18 pm

    Well it sounds like you have an old soul for a son! He sounds so wise for being just 11 years old!

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    Melissa Chapman
    June 5, 2017 at 11:10 pm

    Kids have a way of simplifying things and getting to the nitty gritty of an issue. Your son is a very smart boy and I learned a lot.

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    Liz Mays
    June 6, 2017 at 1:01 am

    It’s awesome that as he grows up and learns more, you’re able to learn more as well! It sounds like he’s a good kid!

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    Amanda Love
    June 6, 2017 at 1:33 am

    You raised a fine young man and it’s awesome how our kids teach us lessons as well. Happiest birthday to him! He’s lucky to have a momma like you just as you are lucky to have him.

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    Carol Cassara
    June 6, 2017 at 1:35 am

    Lovely life lessons! I would always say that if I did have a child, it should have been a boy. Boys are sweet to moms! I hope he enjoys his 11th birthday!

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    Chantal
    June 6, 2017 at 2:17 am

    I loved reading this post! It is so amazing all of the things kids can teach us when we slow down and pay attention! I love that he holds the door for others! Everyone should do this!

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    kristin
    June 6, 2017 at 4:55 am

    My kids are good kids and teaching them about the kids that go around not being nice for no real reason is important for them to not get discouraged. Even better seeing when they can look past everything and give good advice. Great advice he gave!

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    Foodie Finds Home
    June 6, 2017 at 6:20 am

    You have a very wise son. It seems as if in his 11 years he has taught you tons of valuable lessons; I can only imagine what brilliant nuggets of wisdom the future holds. You are truly blessed.

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    Lia World Traveler
    June 6, 2017 at 1:16 pm

    What a beautiful post and tribute to your amazing son. Thank you for passing on the lessons from your son who seems wise beyond his years.

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    Amy @ Marvelous Mommy
    June 6, 2017 at 1:58 pm

    Happy birthday to him! ‘You can’t always get what you want’ is a great thing for kids to learn at a young age!

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    Toni | Boulder Locavore
    June 6, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    These are awesome! It’s always great to learn from young ones! Happy birthday to your son!

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    Latoya | Life and a Budget
    June 6, 2017 at 2:45 pm

    I love LOVE love lesson number 5. He sounds like such a sweet kid!

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    Jay Colby
    June 6, 2017 at 3:00 pm

    These are some great life lessons. Such a beautiful post.

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    Seattle Travel Blogger
    June 6, 2017 at 3:44 pm

    Your son sounds like a wise little man. I really like his suggestions.
    I like that only boring people get bored (this is a cool saying).
    But, I like a number of other pointers here as well.

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    Jeanine
    June 6, 2017 at 4:32 pm

    What a handsome and wise young man! I love all the life lessons all 7 of my kids have taught me! Parenting is awesome isnt it?

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    K. Elizabeth
    June 6, 2017 at 4:37 pm

    Happy Belated Birthday to your son! One of the aspects that I love about motherhood is that my children are always teaching me life lessons. I think they biggest lesson they’ve taught me is to live life to the fullest. Don’t let dreams and opportunities pass me by.

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    Shannon Gurnee
    June 6, 2017 at 6:22 pm

    It’s amazing the things we learn from our children. These are some awesome things you learned from your son. Thanks for sharing about them.

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    Dogvills
    June 6, 2017 at 6:56 pm

    It amazes me that you learned these lessons from an 11 year old! He is such a smart, sweet kid. You are so blessed to have him in your life.

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    Louise Bishop
    June 6, 2017 at 9:43 pm

    Happy birthday to your son! It is so wonderful seeing all the things they go through and how you can grow from them. Great post!

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    Wendy Polisi
    June 6, 2017 at 9:45 pm

    Your son is a pretty smart kid! Think of all you will learn from him still.

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    Stacie
    June 7, 2017 at 12:54 am

    You son sounds wise for his young years here on earth. Happy birthday to him!

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    Carissa Godbott
    June 7, 2017 at 2:36 am

    Wow…these are great lessons! Very wise for his years!!! #7, #9 and #11 hit VERY CLOSE TO HOME!!! Happy Birthday to your son!1

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    Kristi
    June 7, 2017 at 3:05 am

    Some great lessons. Sometimes we just need to stop, take a deep breath and listen to our kids, they really do have great lessons.

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    Keisha
    June 7, 2017 at 3:08 am

    Your boy has been here before, very wise and mature for his 11 years. I especially resonate with number 2 and number 8, a few of these I’m still working through as an adult, though. I’m assuming he’s the eldest? Eldest children are so, so special ๐Ÿ™‚ good job, mom. You done good.

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    Mimi Green
    June 7, 2017 at 11:43 am

    Happy Birthday to your son. He sounds like an awesome young man. I love the tip on just floating. I’m going to apply that to my life.

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    Kenya G. Johnson
    June 7, 2017 at 9:03 pm

    Those are great lessons, especially #6. My husband gave my son some hand me down Nikes. Practically brand new, just not the lastest. So he got the, “What are those??” at school. I was glad he continued to wear them and not be bothered by what the kids had to say about them.

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    Annemarie LeBlanc
    June 8, 2017 at 7:34 am

    Your son sure acts like an adult trapped in the body of a child! He is full of wisdom it really amazes me how he can think of things like that. You raised him well. Kudos to you, awesome mom!

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    Kasi
    June 9, 2017 at 12:42 pm

    Aw, these are great life lessons, and I loved reading your pregnancy story! Happy Birthday to him, I can tell he is an awesome young man!

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    Nellie
    June 11, 2017 at 12:09 am

    Happy birthday to your baby boy! I love these lessons especially the hiding things–someone will ALWAYS find it!

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    LaQuisha
    June 12, 2017 at 9:06 am

    He is so handsome!! Wow… I love only boring people are bored. This says so much about people and life!

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