My son’s birthday is today! He is 11 years old and my little man. When I first got pregnant with him the hubs and I were kind of surprised because….I was still on birth control. I was taking some antibiotics at the time for a teeth pain which cancelled out the birth control which led me to get pregnant….I was scared because I drank all the things *side eye* before I knew I was pregnant. When we went in to check the heartbeat we got a bit scared because we didn’t hear anything. The Dr. was calm and said maybe it’s to early. I had a miscarriage a few years before and I was panicking that I was having another one. We came home and I cried myself to sleep for a few nights thinking the worse. After two weeks of waiting and waiting we went back in to check and there was that heartbeat. My husband had to work so he didn’t get to come to any of my Dr. Appts. I remember he did make it to the one where they told me the sex of the baby. A boy! That’s all he needed to know. Fast Forward to the week when he was supposed to be born. He was due May 29, 2006……it came and it went. My mom was like let’s walk it out do something get this baby moving…he didn’t budge. The Dr. set aside the date of 6-6-06 to go ahead and get the baby out. Well my mom who goes to church on a daily was like we aren’t having no devil baby (look up 666) So on June 4th I started to feel the baby less and less. I went to the hospital and they said the fluid was low….let’s start the labor. So on June 5th at 5:30am my son was born. He came out hungry…didn’t really cry just started sucking on his hands. I had a C-Section so I didn’t see him until a few hours after he was born and he was just a chunky ole thing. Fast forward to 11 years and now I have a upcoming middle schooler. My son has taught me some valuable lessons over these past years…I want to share a few with you
Lesson 1. Hold the door open so others can walk through – My son is a gentlemen I didn’t teach him but he always holds the door open for me. He does that for everyone…men and women he always stands there and holds the door open. We as adults are always quick to close the doors on others or hurry inside and don’t look back to help someone up. Once you have made it how about come back and hold the door open for others
Lesson 2. Hiding doesn’t do any good – My son hides his homework a lot. I always find it but it’s always late because I am so busy that I sometimes forget to check his stuff. He knows this so he hides things from me. Eventually I find out though and it always catches up to you. Stop hiding things….someone will find it.
Lesson 3. Be flexible and let’s just eat breakfast for dinner – I like to eat breakfast for breakfast….I mean really waffles for dinner but my son teaches me that life has to be lived in a flexible way. I have to be open to changes and doing new things. Switching it up sometimes is good
Lesson 4. If you don’t ask, you don’t get – Sometimes we need to just ask for what we want. Even if it’s a no still ask….it never hurts to ask. You never know what compromises people are willing to make
Lesson 5. There are people who are nice and people who are mean – I don’t teach my kids to judge others by the color of their skin, religious aspects, or gender. My son always says that he puts people in two categories…mean people and nice people. That’s it!
Lesson 6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship – My son and his friend had a little dispute because his friend said that he couldn’t hang with him because he didn’t have on the latest shoes. I told my son to not hang with people like that who are into material things. My son said mom its ok….it’s just a little dispute we are still going to be friends. Sure enough the little boy apologized to him and said you know what your shoes are cool and I bet you saved money by not buying the latest gear.
Lesson 7. When you are stressed float awhile – My son can’t swim but he can float. Every time he gets in the pool he doesn’t bother to swim or attempt to swim he just floats. I always ask why he just doesn’t practice his swimming he says mom don’t stress just let me float I don’t have to always swim
Lesson 8 – You can’t always get what you want – My son has started to tell his sister this after she can’t get her way. I think he learned this one from me but it’s a slap in the face sometimes when I hear his words repeated to me when I want something lol
Lesson 9 – To heal a wound you need to stop touching it – I remember my son got stabbed with a pencil at school. I took the band aid off and tried to look at it, he said mom just put some peroxide on it and don’t touch it….it needs to heal on it’s own. It won’t heal if you keep messing with it….
Lesson 10 – Only boring people are bored – My son is never bored. I ask him why he says it’s because he’s not a boring person. Funny how sometimes people will always say they are bored….its’ because they are boring and they don’t have anything to occupy their time
Lesson 11 – To many of us are not living our dreams because we are to busy living our fears – My son went to visit an airport on a field trip a few weeks ago and said mom I know you’ve never been on a plane but my dreams are to travel the world and live life. I have no time for fears because I want to see everything before I get old…..Wise lesson from my son. He is teaching me to live beyond my fears and just go for it.
My son will be going to middle school where the girls will be on him and he will have to learn how to be just a tad bit more independent. I think he will be okay because of the many things I have instilled in him. He will always be my baby boy no matter what. What life lessons have you learned from your kids?